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Addiction Step FourMade a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Addiction Step Four: If you have made it through the first three steps and you’re thinking of Addiction Step 4, this is where some of the heavy lifting begins. Just as it is difficult to admit that we have a problem, that we need help outside of ourselves and that we need to turn our will over, we still have to face ourselves. That isn’t easy. You might be thinking to yourself that you’re not such a bad person. You never killed anybody, robbed a bank or committed any other criminal act. But if you’ve gotten this far down the addiction path to the point that you’re taking brave new strides to recovery, you have to admit that your way hasn’t been the most productive. Don’t think of this moral inventory in terms of positive and negative, as much as just determining what’s going on, at least in the beginning. Take a step back, look at yourself the way someone else would look at you. Just the facts, no explanations, excuses or blaming someone else, and you might want to consider jotting this down on a piece of paper. This step is not designed to shame you into anything, or lay a guilt trip on you. Instead, you need to know what you are dealing with and how to face the problem head on. If it’s sugar-coated, or even avoided, how does a problem get solved? God already knows! Addiction Step Four: In the Old Testament, the prophet Jeremiah had an understanding of his own nature and facing his own situation. He writes in his prophesy, Chapter 17 and verses 9 and 10: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? ‘I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve.’” This is included because it illustrates a couple of important points—one that we are not necessarily honest about ourselves and two, that God already knows! Devine Intervention? Addiction Step Four: Imagine yourself as a child and you’ve broken a window. There’s dad waiting to deal with the situation. If you scurry through the back door, run up and stairs and hide under the bed, maybe the whole incident will blow away. The first part of the plan works marvelously, as there is no detection of your scurrying, and you’ve successfully made it to the warmth and security of that little crawl space under your bed. You wait and hope. Maybe divine intervention will bless you and the window will magically be fixed. Maybe you can convince dad that the neighbor kid did it. Maybe nobody saw you do it and how can you be blamed if there are no eye witnesses? No, dad knew what happened. He patiently waits for you to slither back out from under your bed and come clean. Nobody needs to tell him. He just wants to hear it from you. Before that can happen however, you have to deal with yourself. Keeping track of your inventory Addiction Step Four: Yet another way of looking at this is my experience in business. I had a friend who owned an auto racing speed shop. It started in his garage, and soon became this massive 10,000 square foot facility, which shipped parts and equipment all over the country. My friend used to race cars himself, but most importantly knew everybody in the business. I asked him what the most important component to his business was and he readily replied, “I stock what guys need.” He kept careful track of his inventory and always had the stuff that guys needed on his shelves. At any given point during the business day, he knew what he had and what he needed to order from the manufacturers. I later would create his product catalog, and so I got a first-hand look at his inventory process. Wow. Other guys had tried their own speed shop, but had failed. I suspect they failed mostly because they didn’t have a handle in inventory. A moral inventory Addiction Step Four: A moral inventory is much the same thing. In this case, the stock is our own personal history. What is on the shelf of your life? What inventory do I need to toss and what inventory do I need to hold on to for future use? It’s an excellent way to access your needs and the first step towards meeting those needs. Once you’ve completed Addiction Step Four you are ready go to Step Five. HOW TO USE THIS SITE:This site contains five MAIN pages that EVERYONE should read: Read these five pages and learn what you need to know to spot drug addiction in: Yourself... Your Family... Your Friends... Your Community... The rest of the pages are there for your reference to explain important topics in more detail. More Addiction Recovery ResourcesClick here for the lastest Books and DVD's for Addiction Step Four Recovery
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