Brother-in-law Vs. Sister-in-law

by Erica
(Cape Coral, FL, US)

So My husbands brother and sister-in-law are both addicts. Supposedly they are in a treatment program and going to church and doing really well.

I haven't seen this for myself neither has my mother-in-law (which is where I got my information from). I haven't seen either of them since February of this year because when they moved out of my house they got evicted from the place they were staying and didn't tell anyone just vanished leaving all their animals behind for me to deal with.

I have been thinking about my sister-in-law a lot lately. We used to be really great friends and I think about when she wasn't doing drugs how great of a person she was. I'm not ready to talk to my brother-in-law yet and my husband flat out refuses to hear either of their names.

I'm not sure if its the pregnancy that's confusing my feelings but I miss the friend that I had. And if she really is in a program then would be OK to start talking to her again? And can I talk to her with out talking to my brother-in-law for now? Or should I wait and see if she tries to reach out to me first?