How do you believe their words?
(Camden NJ USA)
I've been seeing someone for 10-11 months now. When we first starting talking he let me know he had a wild childhood. He experimented a lot but he assured me he was only smoking now and he hated it.
Three months into the relationship I find out he is using percocets consistently. I told he him needed to move on or get clean. A week later he was working on quitting. He had the shakes, twitches and nasty attitude. I though we could get through it.
Ten months into our relationship I had worries here and there but he assured me it wanted to get on the right path and build us a life together. Four days ago he was drug tested at work and they found a detox drug in his system. He told me he couldn't control his cravings and he was trying to detox behind my back. He is in rehab but I am not sure if he went to save his job or himself.
He is overly confident and can only talk about how he is doing it to better us. I'm worried I won't ever be able to trust him again.
How do I know he is staying clean?
Am I wasting my time?