Get Help Now!  


  Available 24/7   

The road to recovery starts here! Trusted, confidential help available 24/7. Speak with an addiction treatment specialist anytime. Please call us now at 800-815-3910!

Will I tell my teenagers

by Anne

My husband now has a serious cocaine addiction that makes him absent from family life but functioning. My children think he is stressed and in ill health. He has totally been absent during a rare times in our marriage that I needed support, he does cocaine in his garage, alone, all evening and into the night.

The kids already believe he is capable of suicide or death through ill health.

Will I tell them the truth so they can understand or do I protect them from the truth while they watch and are confused?

Comments for Will I tell my teenagers

Click here to add your own comments

Go to Al-anon and work this through with a sponsor.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Anne,

You're in a very difficult circumstance, and how to help your children through it is a difficult choice. Please consider joining Al-anon, which is an organization that helps families struggling with addiction. They have many, many resources for helping children of addicts and should be able to help you to decide the best course of action for your family.

Go to Al-anon a few times a week, work the 12 steps and find a female sponsor with children and work together to decide what is the best for all involved in this awful situation.

Good luck,


The Truth
by: Thomas

Depending on your children age, I'd tell them the truth, if they are old enough to understand. Teach your children the consequences of the choice of using, before they decide to use. Knowing why their father is in such pain and agony could be a great deterrent from using substances for them. Had I adhered to those before me that were showing me the possible consequences of a life surrounded by drugs I might had not made that choice.

Click here to add your own comments

Do you have a question or story? It's easy to ask your question or submit your story. How? Simply click here to return to Contact Us.

and Finally Remember:

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened."
- Matthew 7:7-8

Recent Articles

  1. Three Evidenced Based Practices for Treating Teen Addiction

    Mar 29, 17 09:09 AM

    Fortunately, the science of treating addiction in teens has improved. Historically, teens with addictions to alcohol or drugs attended treatment programs

    Read More

  2. I love him but 30 years of fighting his demons has taken a toll!

    Mar 27, 17 08:55 AM

    I no longer want to be with my spouse regardless that he is and will always be the love of my life. But, I can no longer take the drug abuse, the lies,

    Read More

  3. Codependency

    Mar 25, 17 10:09 AM

    Codependency tends to be a close family member like a husband, wife or in this case a mother who thinks she is helping her son...

    Read More

Follow on Twitter or Google+