Addicted to CAT (amphetamine)?
by BobbI
(Brazil)
My Fiance is addicted to CAT(amphetamine), needs it to stay awake & be productive. He was away from it for a year. Went back to it because work was overwhelming & needed to put the hours in our Business to get things done.
It makes him moody and unaware that it affects his behavior & decisions. He has an addictive personality. He is addicted to smoking, porn(caught recently) & CAT.
What do I do to help him realize it is a problem? He lies about everything, and is the master at covering up or turning things around to make it look like it is someone else’s fault.
I love him and need to help him?
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A very slippery slope!
Your fiancé is on a very slippery slope and his amphetamine use puts him in serious jeopardy of developing health problems. I would certainly try to encourage him to get a medical evaluation and see what his overall state of health is, especially since he has been using the CAT. You are in a difficult position. You are engaged to be married and you love him, yet you see that his amphetamine use causes behavioral problems, and that impacts your relationship. You can ask him to seek medical help. That is a very reasonable request. He will probably deny any problem and blame it on you. You can also share your concern with his family, to get them to help you. If they refuse, you are in for a battle. If they will help you, then together you go to a professional person and try to get him into treatment. I know you will not want to hear this, but if his drug use continues, he will drift away from you, or abuse you and it will not be likely that you will have a loving and nurturing relationship. His behavior will become much more self-centered and you will be unhappy. You need to ask yourself an important question: What do I want? If you want to marry an addict and have a one-sided relationship and risk an unhappy and unproductive life together, that will be your choice. If he loves you, if he wants you to love him and be the mother of his children, he needs to hold up his side of the relationship. The amphetamine use is a crossroads in your relationship. You may take one path together and have a happy marriage or he can take the addiction path and leave you alone. If he goes down the wrong path there will be no room in his life for you. If you knowingly go down the wrong path with him, knowing he is an addict who does not want treatment, you have only yourself to blame when you find yourself alone and miserable.
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