I just found out my partner (boyfriend) had a drug addiction

by Maggie
(Nashville, TN, Dickson)

I just found out my boyfriend is smoking crack. I went into the bathroom picked up some dirty clothes and found a paper bag balled up with a crack pipe. I'm angry. I'm mad. I'm hurt. I want to scream.

I thought I've helped him overcome one addiction to alcohol already. I've been the rock. The supporter. The everything. Just when I thought he was getting his act together i.e. a good job, back in school, better decision making... I find this.

I know this man loves me. He shows and has more character than most men I know. He's worth a fight but I don't know if I'm willing to go through this anymore. I have a child. I bust my ass every day to keep this roof over our heads. Food in our stomachs and 2 cars in the driveway. I am angry.

Comments for I just found out my partner (boyfriend) had a drug addiction

Click here to add your own comments

I'd be very angry too!
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Maggie,

Wow, how terrible to find a crack pipe in your house, your child could have found it? It sounds like you already know a lot about addiction recovery and you may already be aware that often an addict goes from one addiction to another. Often though, it's the other way around, they end their crack addiction and switch to alcohol.

Hopefully, you're both attending 12 step meetings and learning about addiction and how to truly end it rather than just masking issues and living in denial.

Working the 12 steps helps us to learn how to live a happy joyous and drug/alcohol free life without trading one addiction for another.

Good luck, and try to channel your anger into positive steps for you and your family by attending Al-anon meetings and getting your partner to attend AA or NA and learn how to work the steps every day.


Click here to add your own comments

Do you have a question or story? It's easy to ask your question or submit your story. How? Simply click here to return to Facts About Cocaine.

and Finally Remember:

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened."
- Matthew 7:7-8

Subscribe to our Drug-Addiction-Support.org weekly email:

Recent Articles

  1. Can medication help treat alcoholism?

    Apr 17, 19 09:51 AM

    Many involved in the addiction treatment world have strong views on the use of medication when it comes to treating alcohol dependence. They can basically

    Read More

  2. Its Starts Slow, Then Swallows You Whole.

    Apr 16, 19 10:33 AM

    It began in 9th grade. In early September of grade 9 I would have never believed I would end up where I am. Weed was like crystal meth to me and any other

    Read More

  3. Offering hope, calling for help

    Apr 15, 19 09:41 AM

    My name is Maya. I have been addicted to food, sugar, drugs, TV, love, and shopping just to name a few. I have come full circle. I have had my go at all

    Read More

Follow us on Twitter #AddictionSuport