Moving out?

by April

My husband and I have been married for almost nine years. His addiction to oxycontin, vicodine, methadone has led to other things like meth and heaven only knows.

I watch in horror as he gets thinner and wastes away. I work a full time job and have a seventeen year old and a six year old. I told him I am moving out of the house we are renting.

He has no job no place to go so I feel this obligation to take care of him or it will be my fault if he dies. But it is hurting my children. I don’t think he would intentionally hurt anyone. But under the influence he’s not safe.

He cries alot and tells me he’s scared and doesn’t know where he is going to go.

Am I doing the right thing?

I just want to feel comfortable in my own home again. I told him I will help him if he wants help.

Help is not Optional

by: Ned Wicker


Dear April,

Your husband needs to go into treatment and get the monkey off his back and the only way to do that is to put his trust in the professionals at a treatment facility.

There is no compromise here. He is slowly killing himself and destroying his family in the process. He is out of options. You have made the right decision for you and your children. You want a husband and they want a dad. He needs to face reality and take care of business.

No promises he won’t keep, no arguments putting all the blame on you, no “I don’t have to go to treatment because I can do this myself.” It either you and the kids, or his drug habit, period.

Call Al-Anon, or reach out to a local church for support. I know this is difficult, but your first obligation right now is to the kids, so you have done the right thing to keep them safe.


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