Smoking Marijuana A Lot, Is He Addicted?
by Brenda
Before I got married, my husband and I used marijuana together and thought of it as a fun, pass-time over the weekends.
But then I got pregnant and I stop, he did not. Once I stopped nursing, I started to use marijuana again with my husband on the weekends just for fun. Then I got pregnant… and the same story all over again. I have grown and realized that I do not want my kids to see me as a drug user mom and have completely stopped.
My husband still uses marijuana and he made sure the kids never saw him. Except now he started to slip and started to use it in the house and the kids have caught him (our kids are 3 and 5 years old).
What started to trouble me was that I found out he smokes on his 2hr commute from work everyday and gets home and smokes more. Now I started to wonder if he is an addict. He tells me he can quit whenever and assures me that he will not smoke in the house any more, then the next thing you know he is smoking in the bathroom.
My question is does this seem like a person that’s become addicted? If so, how do I show him that he’s an addicted person and needs help?
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The Signs Are There
You are seeing classic signs of addiction. He says he can stop any time, but he doesn’t. He smokes to and from work and then smokes at home. You might notice other changes in him, like a waning interest in the kids perhaps, or he may just lie to you a little more than normal. Look for negative changes. People argue about the addictive nature of marijuana. I don’t want to get into that argument, but from your description of your husband’s behavior, he’s addicted. Turn to Al-Anon and get yourself some support. Chances are very good he will not agree with your assessment. Bet on it. You need to educate yourself on how to approach the problem and the Al-Anon folks are just the people to help you. If he’s smoking dope in the house in front of a 3 and 5 year-old, there’s big trouble brewing. You need to take action. |
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Smoking marijuana…
Hi-Thanks for writing. I used to smoke marijuana a lot (about 30 years ago) and drank a a lot. I have been clean for 25 years now. However, I was definitely addicted to both. I smoked every day and it was OK when I was high but it was also awful because all I worried about was if I would run out and if I would be able to get more (no matter how much I had at the time). I believe it is definitely addicting. I would strongly suggest that you get some help so that you will know what to do. I attend Al Anon meetings which are for friends and families of alcoholics and drug addicts. My son is a drug addict. Al Anon has helped me so much. There I found others with the same or similar situation as myself. There are also Narcotics Anonymous meetings but they may be a little harder to find and they are for drug addicts. I used to go to Alcoholics Anonymous and I had a drug and alcohol counselor which helped me a lot when I was getting clean. These meetings would be great for your husband if he is willing to go. Or, you could go and it may help you understand what addiction is all about. Now, I also see a counselor, talk to my minister and see my physician’s assistant. Get all the support you can! Best wishes and I will pray for you-Lynette
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