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Dealing with my boyfriend's addiction

I started dating my boyfriend about one year and three months ago. When we first met he was everything I could have asked for, we were perfect for each other.

Then everything started changing before my eyes. I tried to look the other way when he snuck around with drugs. I had a "see nothing, know nothing" approach. I didn't want to know about what he does when he's not with me. I made the biggest mistake, I should have caught him early on...

After about 5 months of being with him, he told me that he snorts oxycodone like once a week. At first I was like okay... whatever, but I had no idea it was a bigger issue than that.

His friends tried telling me that he was addicted to opana's but every time I brought it up he flipped. He would tell me if he was doing opanas he would come home from work and pass out, that he wouldn't be able to function. He would tell me I am stupid and have no idea what I am talking about.

It was true, I had NO idea at all. I am so naive when it comes to drugs. I smoke weed, and drink occasionally, but I do not mess around with abusing drugs.

After questioning him often for about 7 months, my ex bf, who is his "boy" came out and was like your bf is addicted to opanas. As much as I didn't want to hear it again, or deal with it, this was my proof. I knew I was going to have no effect on helping him stop, so I had to do the hardest thing in the world...I had to tell his mother, so that she could help me and her son.

Still he didn't stop. It was not until he stole $1500 from my savings account. It was then that he realized he needed help, along with the fact that opanas could no longer be snorted because FDA changed them.

On our one year anniversary he finally got into a clinic. He talked his friend who was also addicted into treatment. That friend of his had OD 4 times before getting into treatment.

I was there one of the times and it was the scariest thing ever. I had to call 911 as I'm watching him droop sideways off of a chair and his eyes rolled back into his head. Everyone told me to leave him, his mom even told me to run as fast as I could. But how am I supposed to leave the man I love when he is by far at his lowest point in his life.

He owes me the world, honestly, but I chose to stay by his side. I just really want him to be sober. I am strong and so fragile at the same time. I am very sensitive, but I am strong enough to stay with him and help him however possible.

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Pain killers addict
by: Anonymous

My fiance takes ten pain killers a day, is he an addict?

The short answer is likely, yes he is opiate addicted.
by: Debbie Wicker

Anytime we begin taking pain pills, which are an opiate just like heroin, we risk becoming addicted to them. It doesn't matter if we take pills, or snort them or use a needle and shoot up with them... we still risk opiate addiction.

From the little bit that you've said, your finance is taking 10 prescription pain pills every day. That usually means that he is opiate addicted. Hopefully, he is willing to discuss this and go to a doctor to find out the best way to stop his addiction NOW before it gets worse?

I recommend that you begin going to Al-anon meetings, working the 12 steps and learning about addiction. Al-anon teaches how to love the addict but HATE their addiction. It also teach us how to support the addict without EVER enabling their addiction in any way.

Opiate addiction is a disease of the brain. When your fiance takes those 10 pills, his brain chemistry changes to adapt to the drug use. That's why he gets high when he takes them. Eventually, your brain begins to EXPECT the opiates and punishes us if we don't take the pills. That's addiction.

Sadly, opiate addiction is often a fatal disease if left untreated. So you need to do everything you can to help him and Al-anon can show you how to do that.

Good Luck,


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