“GETTING THEM SOBER e-BOOK”
—— the million-selling book!! endorsed by ‘dear Abby’ and Dr. Norman Vincent Peale
PLUS —– 5 INCREDIBLY HELPFUL BOOKLETS–
1.)) THE 350 SECONDARY DISEASES FROM ALCOHOLISM
2.)) THE HIDDEN PROBLEMS WHEN SEPARATED FROM // DIVORCING AN ALCOHOLIC
3.)) WHAT KEEPS US SO EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO ALCOHOLICS??!!
4.)) SEX & TRUST ISSUES WHEN INVOLVED WITH AN ALCOHOLIC
5.)) YOUR CHILD—— IS IT ALCOHOLISM?! —— & EXACTLY WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT, IF IT IS
A $60 VALUE— FOR $9.95 !!!!!
HERE’S EXACTLY WHAT’S IN THIS HUGE e-BOOK–
THE CHAPTER TITLES IN THE ”GETTING THEM SOBER” BOOK —
No more taking the blame for someone else’s drinking!
Be gentle with yourself
Don’t worry about whether he’s really an alcoholic
Don’t pour out the booze
Learn to relax
Don’t be afraid of losing him because you’re changing
Stop arguing with him (it works!)
Do one thing every day just for yourself
Use tough love
Don’t ride with him when he’s drunk
Confront him!
Walk away from abuse
Accept yourself
Don’t believe “Drunk Is Fun!”
Tell your families? Only if you want to!
Mean what you say and say what you mean
Deal with his arrogance!
Don’t change your address!
Hide the car keys?
You have the right to get sick too!
Learn about blackouts
Try to remember it’s a disease
Let the crises happen
No more lying to his boss!
Start to get help—- Even though he’s the alcoholic
Stay with him or leave him “Just for today”
Break out of your isolation
Stop asking permission!
Act as if you love you
Put him in the back of your mind
Don’t feel guilty when you’re mad!
Forget his bad mouth
Don’t say you’re changing—–just do it
Stop telling him how to get sober (don’t talk to brick walls, either)
Don’t get scared when he threatens to drink
Wipe out saying, “you’ve been drinking again!”
Don’t expect him to be sober
Stop checking the bars
Don’t beg him to stay
Don’t be scared that he will leave if he gets well
Getting Help
Sex and alcoholism
A Quick Test— Are you an alcoholic?
AND— HERE ARE THE CHAPTER TITLES IN THE 5 BOOKLETS—
1.)) THE 350 SECONDARY DISEASES FROM ALCOHOLISM
2.)) THE HIDDEN PROBLEMS WHEN SEPARATED FROM // DIVORCING AN ALCOHOLIC
Remember the facts!
It’s YOUR decision whether or not to separate—- it’s not your counselor’s decision
Courage to change the things we can
“I was able to decide to leave, even though he was sober and I was physically ill”
What are examples of crazymaking that counselors should inherently know in order for us to trust their advice-giving?
“How counseling helped me decide”
“But he looks so good since we’re separated. Maybe he’s not an alcoholic?”
“But he’s drinking less since we’re separated. Can he be getting better?”
“I can’t stop being angry with him!”
“When I see my alcoholic husband and he’s nice to me, I get upset!”
“I can’t forgive him”
“My denial, my compassion, and my guilt pulled me down into it with him, again”
“I’ve dropped the divorce proceedings six times, now”
“I feel guilty because I think I didn’t do enough to make him want to be sober”
“I left a sober alcoholic”
“If I give up obsession, do I have to give up hope?”
“How can I help him after we’re separated?”
What are the real problems about dating again?
Answering your legal questions about alcoholism, divorce, children, and court-ordered evaluations
Intervention
3.)) WHAT KEEPS US SO EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO ALCOHOLICS??!!
Don’t try to make sense out of their nonsense
Knowing that it’s hard to lose an alcoholic, helps us to calm down and keep us on the recovery path
The irregular behavior of the alcoholic keeps us attached
The alcoholic does not exist separately from the alcoholism
Excited misery keeps us attached to the alcoholic
Our need to caretake keeps us attached to the alcoholic
Facing our illusions ends their power to hurt us
Quick ways to detach
4.)) SEX & TRUST ISSUES WHEN INVOLVED WITH AN ALCOHOLIC
Sex and “games” and recovery
Adult children of alcoholics— guilt, shame, abuse, and isolation
Adult daughters of alcoholics and the mistress-compulsion
Replacing the excitement of sickness
AIDS: Families of alcoholics — hidden-high-risk group?
Notes to family counselors and their clients
5.)) YOUR CHILD– IS IT ALCOHOLISM?! — & EXACTLY WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT, IF IT IS
Is it “just a phase”
Parents are not guilty—the genetic facts about alcoholism
Why most therapies haven’t been able to help
Suicide, therapy, and other teen issues: young A.A. members anonymously tell their stories
Intervention
Tough love is too tough for most of us with our children—- how professionals can help do the intervention for you
If your child is also mentally-ill
Caught in the middle—–when adult children of alcoholics are also parents of alcoholic children
Alcoholic ‘games’—-when your alcoholic ex-spouse adds to your troubles
Surrounded by alcoholism—- if your spouse AND children are alcoholic
A $60 VALUE– SPECIAL $ 9.95 !!
If your loved one is struggling with addiction and you are feeling helpless, contacting your nearest alcohol treatment center is another great place to start.