Aunt drinks heavily?

by Jennifer

I am contacting you regarding my aunt. She is really bad in drinking alcohol. she also drives like that and has 2 daughters that she drives with.

We really want to get her help but we think to do an intervention is the only thing we think is left. We tried to talk to her but she has no part in it she just walks away. So hopefully you can give information.

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Her Problem, Not Your Problem
by: Ned Wicker

Dear Jennifer,

Mom wants nothing to do with conversations about her drinking, so she walks away. She denies any problem is even possible. It’s your fault because you bring it up. Of course she doesn’t get help because she doesn’t believe she has a drinking issue.

Before you go through the steps in making an intervention, perhaps you have to make one more serious attempt at a family talk and let her know how her drinking is impacting your life. That is similar to what happens at an intervention.

The problem you face is the disease your mother has prevents her from seeing things the way they are. She doesn’t think she has a problem—you have a problem. She doesn’t drink too much, you complain too much.

It’s never her, because if it were she would have to take action. That’s the point. She has to want to get better and in order for her to want to get better she has to see that she is in trouble. It’s not exactly a Catch 22, but you can see how difficult it is to deal with this.

The books “Getting Them Sober” by Toby Rice-Drew are excellent and written for people just like you. Also, Al-Anon is a terrific support organization that can offer help and guidance.

In order to move forward, her problem has to be HER problem and not yours. You have to see it that way and so does she.

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