My former boyfriend who is 61 years old and was in a 2 year recovery from crack/cocaine addiction, but recently relapsed when he received a large sum of money, and was going through some difficult times.
His roommate informed me that he admitted to her that he used crack/cocaine 3 times; and that he was missing for about 4 days and when he came home it is at 5 or 6 am.
A few days later when I confronted him about it, I brought along his drug counselor who is also a member of his church. I asked her to come to along because I thought she could help him.
Last summer, I attended the two sobriety meetings with him at the church to give my boyfriend moral support, and to understand his struggle to stay sober. My former boyfriend said I ruined his reputation because I didn’t come to him first and talk to him privately about the matter; but I was trying to do an intervention since his roommate had told me so much information.
Since I already knew of his past drug history, I didn’t want to waste any time. Another friend of mine said that I betrayed him. That was not my intention, but only to help my former boyfriend. What do you think?