I'm in love with someone addicted to cocaine.

by Lara

I'm in love with someone cocaine addicted. He is a very nice, and a very kind person. He hates himself for being addicted and he was trying to stop many times like for 3 months. But he disappears again?

What can i do with our relationship? Do i have to give up and stay away from him or what? I'm so confused please help me!

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You're facing a difficult choice.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Lara,

Cocaine addiction attacks the brain and convinces us that we must use. I'm not sure what was happening during the three months that your boy friend was trying to quit. Did he not use at all, or did he keep quitting then using again?

Cocaine addiction is a very serious problem that is characterized by relapse. We really want to quit on our own without any treatment but usually we can't stop using. No one can stop us from using, we have to make that choice ourselves, but normally we need addiction treatment to help us to truly quit.

You have to decide if you want to stay with this person no matter what or decide that his addiction is a deal breaker and that you need to stop seeing him.

If he has any family, you should certainly consider telling them so they can potentially intervene and get him the treatment he needs.

If you decide to stick it out and stay with him, I highly recommend that you begin attending Al-anon meetings at least three times a week. Al-anon with introduce you to the 12 step program and will explain addiction to you so you can fully understand what you and your boyfriend are dealing with.

Once you're attending meetings invite your boy friend to go with you. If you're both attending meetings and working the steps his chances for recovery are much greater.

Good Luck,

Debbie

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