Truly no one but the addict is to blame we all make that first decision to say yes. For whatever reason we believe we should say yes, which makes eventually saying no unlikely. My story spanned over a twelve year period it led to deceit, theft, and worse.
I convinced myself everyone was to blame but me. I am now clean for 9 years but some times the urges are there to return but that would be my choice. For an addict being cruel to be kind is the only cure as for me i decided enough was enough.
There is hope for all addicts, we are members of society that just made the wrong decision and only our decision can change that. I wish anyone who wants to finally say no can cross that barrier and move on. It does become a thing of the past but not for a while.
"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." - Matthew 7:7-8