by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Jeffrey,

Enabling anothers addiction often seems like the only choice, because you love them and they won’t stop and you want to protect them from themselves. But, as you know, the problem with enabling an addict is that you may be facilitating their addiction or even making it worse. It becomes a VERY vicious cycle that many have not been able to break.

Please consider attending either Al-anon meetings or I would also recommend Celebrate Recovery. Here is a brief description of a Celebrate Recovery Group at Life Church in your area:

“Celebrate Recovery

The purpose of the Celebrate Recovery ministry is to fellowship and celebrate God´s healing power in our lives through the “8 Recovery Principles.”

This experience allows us to “be changed.” We open the door by sharing our experiences, strengths and hopes with one another. In addition, we become willing to accept God´s grace in solving our lifes´ problems.

By working and applying these Biblical principles, we begin to grow spiritually. We become free from our addictive, compulsive and dysfunctional behaviors. This freedom creates peace, serenity, joy and most importantly, a stronger personal relationship with God and others. As we progress through the program we discover our personal, loving and forgiving Higher Power – Jesus Christ, the one and only true Higher Power.

If you are new to recovery, we encourage you to attend Newcomers101.

We meet every Monday night. Please contact us for the location.

7:00 – 8:00pm Main Meeting

8:00 -9:00 pm Small Groups

9:00 -10:00 pm Meet and Greet

For More information contact Pastor Fred Estrella 610-434-3117 x 14 or [email protected]“

You need all the support you can get to help yourself and to help your girl friend to end the co-dependent cycle you’re in and Celebrate Recovery is a wonderful place to start.

Good Luck,

Debbie

by: Jeffrey

Well, as I suspected she called me the following day and said she had a bad night. Again, she asked me to send her money for the bus so we could be together. The whole time until she got the money she responded to my calls right away.

Several hours had passed and she should have arrived. She finally calls me and says she had gotten on the wrong bus and wanted me to tell her how to get to me. I asked her to tell me exactly where she was and her answer was ambiguous. I knew her next request was going to be that she needed more money for another bus. Before she could get the words out, I said that I would have Uber pick her up. She started to stammer and the started to say she was already coming back to where she started from when moments before she at bus drop off. She then hangs up and texts me saying to just text her what bus she should take and that Uber is too expensive. I tell her to send me her location because will not be sending anymore money.

Another day has passed and I have not heard from her nor know how to reach her.
I appreciate your advise and would like to get her into counseling and also attended meetings myself. Unfortunately I am still in a rehab and she still won’t admit to having a problem or lying.

I do pray to God for help for her and myself. I know I am hurting and I am sure she is in another way.

by: R Johnson

Your story is heartbreaking and all too common among those who have a loved one that is involved with substance abuse and dependence. Once she is ready, there are many good treatment centers available to help her cope with her addiction and grow toward a healthier lifestyle.

by: Anonymous

NO ONE SHOULD FEEL SORRY FOR YOU. YOU HAD IT ALL, A FAMILY, A WIFE WHO SUPPLIED YOU WITH EVERYTHING FROM MONEY, FAMILY, AND A BUSINESS WHICH YOU RAN STRAIGHT INTO THE GROUND. NOW YOU WANT EVERYONE TO FEEL SORRY FOR YOU LIKE SOME SORRY LITTLE PUPPY DOG, WELL GUESS WHAT JACKASS SOME PUPPIES WANDER OUT INTO THE STREET AND GET HIT BY CARS, MAYBE YOU SHOULD BE ONE OF THEM.

YOU NEVER TOLD ANYONE THE REAL STORY OF HOW YOUR WIFE DIED AND HOW YOU WERE THE ONE RESPONSIBLE FOR RUNNING HER FAMILY’S BUSINESS INTO THE GROUND. NOW YOUR IN LOVE WITH A CRACK ADDICT. YOU WANT TO GIVE EVERYTHING TO A DRUG ADDICT WHO DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOU ONLY FOR THE LITTLE BIT OF MONEY YOU THINK YOU HAVE. YOUR A TAKER, ALWAYS HAVE BEEN AND ALWAYS WILL BE.

NO ONE FEELS FOR YOU, YOU CREATED THE SITUATION YOUR IN. YOU MADE YOUR BED NOW LIE IN IT. ALL THOSE YEARS OF SUPPORT FROM YOUR WIFE AND HER FAMILY AND THIS JUST SHOWS WHAT KIND OF PERSON YOU REALLY ARE. YOU JUST DISGUISED IT BETTER BACK THEN TO GET WHAT YOU WANTED. YOUR A DEGENERATE GAMBLER, AND DRUG ADDICT. GO AHEAD TELL EVERYONE ABOUT YOUR DRUG USE.