My 16 year old son addicted to marijuana?

by Michael Sr.

Today, I'm so sad. I'm a Christian, Husband, Father and Law Enforcement Officer. I've done everything I could possibly do in being a great role model for my family. However, I've learned, my 16 year old son is addicted to marijuana.

My first response was anger and rage. I wanted to know, who was his supplier. I asked myself, where did I go wrong as a father? Then I disowned my son for a few hours. I told him to leave my home. I wasn't going to do anymore for him. Then I cried and realized my son was addicted and he needed my help. This is all new to me, his mother and sister.

We don't understand, how a person who's has a great life decides to turn to drugs? I need your help, because I love my son and I want/need to save him.

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Denial is your first hurdle.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Michael Sr.,

Your son probably believes that marijuana is not harmful and you can't be addicted to it and he is wrong on both counts. Marijuana has been shown to cause cognitive impairment in kids his age and is addictive to 1 in 10 that use it.

It has also been shown to be a gateway drug to many more serious drugs so that a marijuana addiction soon becomes a alcohol, cocaine, opiate or meth addiction.

So even though your son probably doesn't believe it, he has a very serious problem.

But as a Christian you know that we're all allowed to choose our own path and to exercise our own free will. So that means that any changes your son makes will have to be his choice.

He is probably in denial right now and refusing to understand that he has a VERY serious problem. Because of his denial he will fight you at every turn as you try to help him. That's why addiction is such a difficult and terrible disease.

My first recommendation is that you take him to your doctor for a complete medical exam, letting the doctor know that he has an addiction to marijuana and may also be using other drugs. I would ask the doctor for a referral to a good adolescent drug treatment program in your area.

You can also consider a Christian teen treatment program called Teen Challenge. Teen Challenge will take him into the program for a year and has EXCELLENT success rates.

Finally, I recommend that you, your wife and your daughter begin to attend Al-anon and Al-teen meetings to learn everything there is to know about addiction and addiction recovery. They will teach you how to help your son but also how to avoid enabling his addiction.

Good Luck and God Bless you and your family,


My daugther and my son need help!
by: Delores

My son is Mabula and my Daughter is Kabula they are addicted to Marijuana really bad and they are in denial about them being high...

They get high everyday and all day.. They steal money from their grandma and their mother to support their habit... They claim that they get free marijuana free.. I AM CRYING FOR HELP BECAUSE I FEEL THAT I AM GOING TO LOSE THEM AND THEY ARE MY ONLY TWINS I HAVE...

Get help for yourself as a first step to helping them.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Delores,

I so very sorry that you're in such a desperate situation. Drug abuse be our loved ones is awful and makes us feel so out of control.

Please consider joining an Al-anon group in your area as soon as you can. Try some different groups until you find a group that makes you feel comfortable.

You need to find others who have dealt with drug abuse and addiction in their children. People who have been where you are at will know which resources and approaches will be most useful for you.

Don't loose hope, seek the support that you need to help you and your children learn the necessary steps to end their addiction.

Good Luck,


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