by: Ned Wicker

People form attachments and relationships in treatment facilities and that is an unexpected consequence of the program. Not knowing what kind of treatment program she is in, I can’t offer specifics, but needless to say your wife has to adjust to living a sober lifestyle and somehow you have to find your way into that new experience. She needs time.

A lot has happened to her, many changes and I am hoping her parents will help the situation. I’m not so sure I would want her as a counselor, as I sense she is unstable emotionally and needs adjustment time to get her feet under her.

Ex-users do make good counselors, but not until they have a proven track record of living clean and sober. If she was in a faith-based treatment program, they would not recommend a divorce. I think your wife is confused and in need of guidance.

Hang in there and tell her to wait at least a year and give herself time to heal.

by: Anonymous

I am going through a similar experience .. Coming out of treatment centre .. My wife also told me that she wants a divorce, and that she doesn’t love me like that anymore .. That was 2 years ago .. And I am still holding onto the woman that I love … As painful as it is .. We have to understand that the woman they were before is NOT who they are now … If you find a solution!! Please let me know!
Good luck to you.

by: Anonymous

The very first thing that rehab counselors do is to convince the patient that all men are evil. This is a cult. I’ve been there. There is nothing you can do.

by: Anonymous

I am in the same situation. My husband just completed his rehab treatment at the end of February and decided to move to a halfway house instead of coming home. He says he doesn’t love me anymore and his sobriety is the most important thing.

But he is running with about 10-20 daily that he met in rehab and said they are his life now. I am numb after all the abuse and hurt he put me through, while struggling with his drug addiction, now that he is sober he doesn’t want to be married anymore.

He has traded me for a life with the people he met in rehab. I am deeply in love with my husband, always forgave him, always supported him and prayed for him. I feel abandoned, heartbroken and confused. I need help how to cope with us. It doesn’t make sense.

by: Anonymous

My wife has been in rehab for 40 days now. After 20 days of being there, she told me she wanted a divorce. We have 4 kids. I have felt so alone. I love her more than anything. Her therapist told her she has to divorce me and that i mentally and emotionally abuse her. She went to rehab because she wanted to save our marriage.