Don't know what to do with Heroin Addicted boyfriend?
I have been with my boyfriend for 22 months. He’s been doing heroin the entire time and I did not find out until he confessed on 3 January.
He finally went thru withdrawal at my house on 6 July 2014 and he has relapsed again. He is back with the crack dealer woman who blackmailed him the last time he left her and came back to me. He is being mean again and won’t talk to me through phone calls; only texts every now and then.
I’ve finally told his family the hell I’ve been struggling with him for all of this time in hopes they can convince him to go into rehab. I’m not sure if it was the right thing to do or not but I had to tell somebody because I don’t want him to die on my watch. It’s only fair for his family to know that their 44 year old Brother has relapsed again and has never really been clean in the 3 to 4 years he’s been back in Ohio from Michigan. I’m not sure if they will confront him or convince him at all or even say anything to them.
I have cried since Sunday night when I dropped by his place and he would not open the apartment door. He was screaming at me to leave and saying he was not going to open the door. Then the next thing I know the crack whore dealer sticks her head out of the bedroom window and tells me that she’s still riding him and just needed him for a few more minutes and that I need to ‘get along’. I stood in silence and walked away. He just stayed frozen leaning out the window watching me walk away. He never said a word to me.
15 minutes later I receive a text from him apologizing for hurting me so many times and that she was gone and he was now available to talk even though he was a wreck. I never responded.
I know he’s back on Heroin/Crack Cocaine. He’s never quit the steroids or the weed. I thought everything would be ok if I acted like it was ok for him to do the weed because maybe he wouldn’t do the Heroin/Crack again. I was wrong.
I feel helpless and my heart is breaking. I cannot tell anyone about this because I don’t want them to know that I am in love with a heroin/crack/steroid/pot junkie.
The few times I’ve tried contacting him he is mean and tells me to leave him alone and stop texting. He tells me that he has never done narcotics and never will until the day he meets St. Pete but I know he is lying through his teeth.
I just bought a house and he was living here with me in a new city, he had every luxury a man could have yet I and none of these things or the good life was enough to keep him clean.
I am at a loss and feel like I am grieving a death of someone who has passed. He spent $88K on his heroin addiction last year. He told me he just took $20K out of a 401K a couple of weeks ago and now I now that will be injected into his and his crack dealer whore. That will probably only be a month or two.
I fear for his life and keep texting him inspirational/positive messages trying to convince him to get clean. He just ignores me. I don’t know what to do. This is killing me watching him slowly kill himself.