Daughter (stepdaughter) is using…we think Heroin. We have had custody of her daughter for almost 3 years.
We have no seen or heard from her until May (Mothers day). All she did was ask for money. Didn’t ask about her child or anything. Then again on fathers day. She wants to have lunch… she was boo hooing about how she is not doing good. But then next time it is she has a sponsor.
She has a very long history of lying , stealing, etc., usual addict behavior. She has not seen her daughter for almost 2 years. We feel it would be bad for the little one to see her only for her mother to go years again.
We need help.
It is my stepdaughter and my husband is afraid he will get a call saying she is dead. I expect it and have accepted it. I feel there isn’t anything we can do for her. She is in constant trouble and I don’t want to be around the crowd she associates with. Jail record a mile long.
We have enough to deal with besides being robbed blind. I feel it would be putting ourselves as well as our granddaughter at risk. The little girl is almost 4 (August).
We had to give up our life at our age for the little one and so we don’t want her not to be safe. We need to know if we should get in touch with her.
I am stronger and can say no to money, etc. My husband is not so strong. In fact it took him years to figure out he was enabling her. I am afraid if he sees her he will relapse. I keep saying to him, I am not going to be the one who gives her the money that she buys drugs with and OD’s on.
Should we not get in touch? I have never responded to her texts because I don’t know what to do.