Great guy but addicted to heroin?

by Marina

Hello there,
I have recently met a guy whom I really really like. He is a lovely person and we have great times together. The problem is that he is addicted to heroin, alcohol although in treatment.

I do not like these things at all, i am a bit scared and concerned as he feels suicidal many times and although I like him, I fear this can take me down.

Last night he called me really down and crying and feeling suicidal and soon after I got to his place he started smoking heroin in front of me.

I don't know what to do and were to find some support to all these. I don't know what would be the best thing to do. Maybe you can guide me a bit?


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Treatment is not working.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Marina,

Heroin and/or alcohol addiction are both diseases of the brain, left untreated either is often fatal. Obviously, the treatment program he's in isn't working.

Thoughts of suicide could be a symptom of the withdrawal from heroin or alcohol, either can cause suicidal thoughts. As we're in withdrawal from heroin or alcohol, our brain attacks us because our brain WANTS us to use. Once we are through the withdrawal process we usually gain better control over our thoughts and emotions.

When the addict uses, as your boyfriend did by smoking heroin, the brain reverts back to as it was when he was fully addicted. He now has to begin the withdrawal process all over again. It's very frustrating and one reason that addiction is so very difficult to treat.

Each of us made uniquely, so an addiction treatment that works for one person can be ineffective for someone else. Your boyfriend needs to find the right addiction treatment program that will work for him.

A place for both of you to start is AA and Al-anon, and working the 12 step program. The 12 steps helps us to re-program our brain to learn how to live an addiction free life. Al-anon teaches us how to love the addict but HATE their addiction. AA will also have access to different treatment options for your boyfriend. He needs to keep trying until he finds one that works for him.

You both have a lot of work to do and the sooner you start the better. Your boy friend's relapse doesn't have to be devastating to his recovery, but the longer it goes on the more difficult it will be to begin treatment again.

Good Luck,


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