Help husband and cocaine

We dated 4 years before marrying and now its alil over a year and my husband disappears every 3 months. He's admitted to me to trying cocaine but now I realize it wasn't just a try... he's a user.

I don't know how often I don't know why. He disappears every 3 months for a day or 2 or 3... when he said he did try it he said he never was going to do it again. And its happened 3 more times!

I'm angry and hurt and scared! The way he talks to me is like he hates me and I don't know why. He's going out with friends and not being at home these last few days since his last use I know of.

I don't want to live this life... what should I do??? I LOVE and MISS my husband!

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You certainly should be angry, hurt and scared.
by: Debbie Wicker

Hi,

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you and your husband. Drug addiction is an insidious disease that attacks the brain and changes the addict into someone who is unrecognizable and often capable of doing ANYTHING to get the drug that their brain is now convincing them they NEED.

I would recommend you start attending Al-anon or Nar-Anon meetings now, this week. Don't wait because addiction is a progressive disease and the sooner it's treated the better for your husband.

You should attend these groups at least twice a week until your husband is in treatment for his drug abuse. Attending these meeting will help you to understand your husband's addiction and will also help you to love your husband while avoiding enabling his addiction in any way.

Go to the meetings, work the 12 steps and find a sponsor who has helped their husband to overcome their addiction. You need support and resources as quickly as possible and these groups are there to help you to do that.

Let your husband know what your doing but don't argue with him. Arguing is almost never an effective way to help your husband to end his addiction.

Good Luck,

Debbie

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