Husband is an addict


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My husband was addicted to Vicodin and OxyContin in his teenage years. He was trying to get clean and was going thru withdraw symptoms. He ran into someone who sold Heroin and tried it.

Since then he goes thru these cycles and relapses. He is supposed to be taking Suboxone but does not take it everyday. When he wants to take the medication he does and when he doesn't he buys heroin. He makes excuses and says that it is my fault because I have not been there for him.

He has not finished school and is always making excuses. He says he wants a family but I do not want to bring a child into this type of environment. Please help me.

I feel like I just want to run away and never look back. I don't know what else to do for him. He makes excuses for everything that goes wrong in his life and he blames others rather than him taking responsibility.

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Heroin changes our brain and personality
by: Debbie Wicker

Heroin addiction is a disease of the brain. Heroin attacks the brain and changes us into a different person causing us to spend all of our time, thoughts and emotions seeking to use the drug and justifying using the drug. Blaming others for our choices is a very common rationalization of addiction.

When we're addicted we often get into blame cycles, which are likely caused by the drugs influence on our thoughts and emotions. If your husband could stop using then his personality would return to the person you knew before he became addicted to heroin.

Suboxone is also an opiate and should ONLY be taken as prescribed by a doctor otherwise it can also cause addiction problems for us. Heroin and suboxone are opiates and opiate addiction is fatal 70% of the time. Your husband has a VERY serious illness that needs immediate attention and support.

I recommend that you immediately begin going to Al-anon meetings to work the 12 steps and find a sponsor to help you to make appropriate choices to help your husband to end his addiction. Learning to love your husband but also learning to avoid enabling his addiction in any way can help him to quit much sooner.

Find at least two meetings a week to attend and once you're attending invite your husband to go with you. Both of you need to attend meetings regularly to learn about addiction and also learn how to end it.

Good luck,

Debbie

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