by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Jessica,

You’re in a very difficult situation that only making the right choices can help to remedy. Your daughter NEEDS her mother to be clean and sober and in her life.

I would recommend you try going to AA and NA meetings DAILY and working the steps. You must work the steps diligently to get ANY benefit from the meetings. Once you go to a lot of different meetings you will find a female sponsor who has been where you’re at.

If you only occasionally go to meetings and are still using heroin, no one will want to be your sponsor because you’re not committed enough to the process.

When they ask what step you are on you need to know EXACTLY which step you’re on and what you’re struggling with. That’s how the 12 steps work.

Have you really done step one:

“We admitted that we were powerless over heroin –that our lives had become unmanageable.”

What about step two:

“Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”

Have you turned your addiction over to a higher power?

Normally, you can’t get a good sponsor until they truly believe you will actually work the steps.

You can do this if you focus on ending your addiction and then getting your daughter back, in that order.

Good Luck,

Debbie