I'm a 35 year old heroin addict and had my 1st baby in April

by Jessica
(Pasadena, CA)

I'm a 35 year old heroin addict and have been addicted for 5 years. I had my 1st baby 04/10/15. Department of Child & Families Services is involved because of drugs in both of our systems. I'm In NA and haven't found a sponsor yet.

I want to do a action or safety plan. Have any ideas? Their are no any good female sponsor in Pasadena, Ca? I need to gain custody of my baby and my life. Any helpful tips?

Inpatient program is not an option. I'm not leaving my baby. Please help me I'm desperate. I'm on methadone and still can't stop using. I have no support what so ever. My daughter is my motivation but her father only allows me to see her 2 times a week for 1 hour each time. Not enough. She gonna forget about me. Help me please.

Thank you.

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You made a good start but you MUST follow through!
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Jessica,

You're in a very difficult situation that only making the right choices can help to remedy. Your daughter NEEDS her mother to be clean and sober and in her life.

I would recommend you try going to AA and NA meetings DAILY and working the steps. You must work the steps diligently to get ANY benefit from the meetings. Once you go to a lot of different meetings you will find a female sponsor who has been where you're at.

If you only occasionally go to meetings and are still using heroin, no one will want to be your sponsor because you're not committed enough to the process.

When they ask what step you are on you need to know EXACTLY which step you're on and what you're struggling with. That's how the 12 steps work.

Have you really done step one:

"We admitted that we were powerless over heroin --that our lives had become unmanageable."

What about step two:

"Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity."

Have you turned your addiction over to a higher power?

Normally, you can't get a good sponsor until they truly believe you will actually work the steps.

You can do this if you focus on ending your addiction and then getting your daughter back, in that order.

Good Luck,


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