I've put up with the addiction for so long I don't think he even realizes how unhappy I am. How do I tel him I want a divorce.

My husband is addicted to Percocet and OxyContin and has been for 12 years. It started with legitimate needs for knee pain and both knees replaced. I think before that he was a functioning alcoholic but he was a business man and it seemed part of the job to be out drinking with customers often.

I was sad, disappointed, frustrated most of our 35 year marriage but I married at 20 and thought, you just make it work. He has been a great financial provider and tries to be there emotionally but I'm sure you all know that the world revolves around them.

I guess I considered myself a good wife and mother because I didn't yell, scream, or threaten. I tried to make our lives "look" like the perfect family. No one ever knew what I was living with until recently when I confided in my cousin.

I realize now that my compliance only hurt me, my husband and my children.

I have been sad for so long and my children are grown, so I just want out of my marriage. My husband will be shocked but I don't even want to try. I just want to live alone and recoup the life I have never had.

How do I go about ending this?

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Sounds like there are a lot of issues.
by: Debbie Wicker

It sounds like your marriage has a lot of issues, one of which is your husband's addiction. Divorce is always very sad and difficult. There are no

One thing you may want to consider is attending Al-anon meetings and working the 12 steps. At the meetings you will discover a lot about yourself and your marriage and about how others have handled the situation you're in.

Go to the meetings and find a female sponsor who you trust and work with them to decide your best course of action.

Good Luck,

Debbie

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