My 22 year-old son is addicted to roxies?
My son is addicted to roxies and has had issues with cocaine, meth and pot for about 6 years.
We’ve tried everything but now he’s 22 yrs old and can’t seem to stay off the roxies. He’s in out-patient treatment (suboxone and drug tests, psyche therapy) but I think now he is injecting the roxies as all of my teaspoons have gone missing and I see tracts on his arms which he says are that bad due to him itching at night.
There have been and still are, the typical issues of stealing, lying, and whatever to get what he needs. I know he wants to quit but it’s “just too hard”.
I am willing to help him but the money issues and lying are causing trouble between my husband (his step-dad) and me, and the rest of his siblings. I come from a good family but my dad was an alcoholic and my mom enabled trying to keep things afloat, I’m afraid I am doing the same thing with my son.
I go to a psychiatrist every month and have for years to help me deal with all of this and also the loss of my daughter to cancer when she was 3 yrs old. I am scared to death I am going to lose another child to the point of doing stupid things to “help” him and being so depressed I can’t function normally.
If I can stick with it this time he is moving out today and will have to deal with this himself. I am paralyzed with fear that I will get a phone call in the middle of the night to find out he’s in the hospital or jail or worse.
Is my paranoia making this situation worse? My husband says if we just cut him off he will come around but my son gets so depressed and uses that as an excuse to do drugs then blames it on us because we “forced him” to be in a desperate situation.
What can I do????
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Stop the Train
Al-Anon is an organization dedicated to helping moms just like you. You need to learn how to help your son and avoid enabling. As it stands now, he has complete control over you. He can steal, lie, do illegal drugs in your home because he knows you’re there to clean up the mess. Because he has been using for some time, starting when he was 15 or 16, he was from the beginning far more apt to develop a substance use disorder. It is a brain disease and he is held captive by it. He can’t make decisions for himself, and any decision he does make is a bad one. He can’t be allowed to control things. Make the call to Al-Anon. They can help. |