My dads and addict and I’m leaving for the military.

by Mitchell


I’m nineteen years old and for as long as I’ve been on this earth my father’s been addicted to alcohol and crack… I understand it’s a disease, and he himself is the only one who can fix it.

I plan on leaving for the marine corps by the end of ’11 and I fear returning home without a father. Any tips or anything to help my anxiety would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

Hard Situation

by: Ned Wicker

Dear Mitchell,

You have cause for concern, but there is really little you can do to force your father into treatment. I would call Al-Anon and have a chat with their members, who know all too well what it is like to watch a loved one battle the disease.

Your father does have to decide for himself that he needs help, and you can encourage him to seek treatment. You have to live your life.

I know that might sound selfish, but his problem can’t be allowed to ruin your life. God bless you for your willingness to serve our country in the armed forces. I would hope that your father respects that.

There is only so much you can do to help. As it is now, there are no consequences for him. He has you there. When you leave for boot camp, maybe an AA member can help him, or another family member, but he’s going to have to want help.


by: Mitchell

Thank you… It’ll have to be something I deal with day by day, as my deployment draws closer.

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