My husband is a drug addict

by Corinne
(Alabama )

Hi, my husband is a drug addict and we have been married over 5 years now and I am an emotional mess. When is enough truly enough?

My husband takes off for days at a time. He won't answer his phone and will come home after a few days looks like he has been high for those days, he is so thin. I can't believe he's the same person. He says he wants help and when we find him help he continues to disappear and the cycle keeps on going.

I have told him, that I can't continue living like this. Then he will say please don't give up on me, I love you. My question is when is enough truly enough? I love my husband, but I can't deal with it anymore. Please help!

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by: Anonymous

Divorce him.

25 years.
by: Anonymous

I've been with my husband for 25 years. In that time he's done over 4 years in prison for drugs. I thought he was clean until one day last week. I came in and caught him with a glass pipe. He told me he was smoking pot, but I'm not that stupid.

I don't know what to do anymore. He acts like it's my fault that I caught him. I'm sure he's been doing this for a while. Maybe it's time to get out off this roller coaster.

Please go to Al-anon.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Corinne,

The agony of what you've been through already is difficult to imagine, and I'm not sure when enough is enough. Addiction attacks the brain and turns us into someone almost unrecognizable. Your husband CLEARLY needs help but he has to become WILLING to accept help before anything will change.

I strongly recommend that you begin going to Al-anon meetings in your area ASAP! Al-anon teaches us, through the 12 step program, how we can continue to love the addict but hate their addiction.

Please go to Al-anon and work the 12 steps, and decide your best course of action. Ideally, you will get your husband to agree to also begin going to meetings and working the 12 steps. Once he is working the steps, then hopefully he will become willing to do everything necessary to end his addiction and save his relationship with you.

Good luck,


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