My son is lost

by Marion

I am the single Mother of a 32 year old son who has struggled with schizophrenia since age sixteen.

He managed well and even completed university courses. He has become addicted to cocaine and I have become almost bankrupt and have been fooled by him.

I have appealed to his mental health team but they won't commit him to hospital. I have called the police to take him to hospital but they wouldn't because he presented so well. I have asked and pleaded for help and intervention. He has been evicted from his apartment and will land on the streets begging so he can get the cocaine. He has expressed suicidal ideation and I fear for his very life.

He has a heart murmur and the next round of cocaine could provoke a fatal heart attack. He needs to be hospitalized but nobody will commit him. He is paranoid and psychotic and fast tracking to either committing suicide or being murdered by the dealers for not paying. I am petrified for his very life and cannot get him to receive treatment because he has absolutely no insight, his mind has been destroyed by the ravages of his mental illness.

I don't know how to help him!

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May need to try to have him arrested?
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Marion,

Words seem so inadequate to try to tell you how lonely and devastated you must be feeling for your son. I have a good friend whose son is similar to what you're describing and she has been totally unsuccessful getting him any help either. The mental health system just doesn't seem to be working for those who NEED it most!

I have a couple of ideas for you that you may want to consider. First, start attending Al-anon meetings in your area two or three times a week. At the meetings you will meet others who have been where you're at right now and they may know of other resources for your son in your area.

Also, by attending meetings and working the 12 steps you will learn to understand your son's addiction in ways you may not have before. Also, a sponsor can help you to have support when difficult circumstances come up.

The other suggestion I have for you, is to consider having him arrested for cocaine possession. In jail he can't use and they will put him on the meds he needs to control his illness. This may sound harsh but often it's the best way to save his life.

Good luck, and may God Bless you and your son,


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