My son's father is addicted to drugs?
(South Carolina, USA)
My ex has a drug abuse problem. I know he is addicted to pain killers and uses other drugs such as meth and things like that.
His drug abuse started about 7 years ago with Loratabs. I became pregnant with our son who is now 5. I left his father when he was 2 months old because of the addiction and I had hopes that he would get help and we could work things out.
Now, he is behind over $12,000 in child support and recently stole my son's Nintendo and pawned it for money. I have taken him to court and he has gone to jail numerous times for child support. I have done this in hopes he will get clean and think about his actions.
He and my son use to have a very close bond. I guess you could have called him a functioning addict. The last year he has missed school functions and sport games and practices. He has promised to take my son to the park or things like that and it never happened.
I have chosen to be honest with my son about his dad and his addiction. I don't know if that is the right thing, but it was what I decided. For years my son spent time with him on weekends, while his parents were the ones in charge and who my son stayed with on weekends.
After his dad stole from him and we had court and he could not stop "nodding" in and out during that, I have refused to send my son on weekends. I'm very worried my son will get hurt or be scared with my ex, he has gotten bad and noticeable on drugs.
I have begged my ex to get help! Even offered to drop back child support if he would just try. Nothing has worked. He won't even admit he uses drugs at all!
I'm worried about my son and this being too much on his tiny shoulders. I try to keep him very busy and active, but he has to be effected by this??
What should I do to help my son? Also my feelings are very random and scattered about his dad. I'm mad he doesn't even call or text to ask about our son and I'm hurt he has gotten to this point. Is it even possible for me to let go over my anger and hate for him and his life choices?