So exhausted and helpless from my heroin addicted bf?

So exhausted and helpless from my heroin addicted bf?

Hello, I need help,

My boyfriend of over 2 and a half years is in the worst state of his drug addiction that he has ever been.

When we met he was clean and sober (I knew he had a past with using drugs but I thought that was all behind him), and then when we reconnected he was sober for a year and our relationship was amazing.

He was the one. I knew he was. The way he made me laugh, smile, feel so special. I felt like the luckiest girl in the world. He was so positive and he made me a better person. He brought out the best in me and was so appreciative for the second chance at life he was given…

Then in a snap of a finger everything just changed. Going missing, low on money, not wanting to see me as much, not happy, lack of sex drive, things went missing etc… To make a long story short- he went into 3 detoxes in rehabs, one detox he overdosed in and all of the others he either snuck drugs in and/or got kicked out of the rehabs or left the rehabs.

He’s so gone it’s so sad. This has been going on for 2 years. I’m so tired, so exhausted and I choose to leave him. I thought that would bring him back to me but he’s still gone!

He doesn’t care that I left and he is still using from what I hear. It’s so upsetting that he doesn’t care about what we once had and I’m still suffering hoping he will come back as the man I once fell in love with. I’d like to know what to do.

Please help!

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Please consider getting support for yourself!

by: Debbie Wicker

Dear exhausted and helpless,

Heroin addiction is a disease of the brain that ultimately destroys everything in its wake. Because of his addiction, your bf only cares about one thing… heroin. His obsession with heroin is so strong that it blocks out everything else in his life.

Generally, when an addict relapses, it’s like they never quit. The brain turns back into what it was when he was using before and takes over again. That’s one reason heroin is such a dangerous and often a fatal addiction. Most addicts relapse many times before they are actually able to get sober.

You need to get support for yourself so that you make the best choices in the very difficult situation.

Please consider going to Al-anon meetings twice a week in your area. Al-anon teaches us about addiction and helps us to learn to love the addict but to hate their addiction. It helps us to avoid enabling the addiction in any way and set appropriate boundaries for our own well being.

Once you’re attending meetings and working the 12 steps it will become clearer to you what your bf needs to do to end this horrible addiction.

Good Luck,


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