Son 25 heroin addiction
by T Finch
My 25 yr old son has been using for probably 3-5 yrs. Heroin has been his drug of choice. He has been living with my ex wife since we divorced when he was about nine years old.
I have tried to be a good father, however, I can admit I have made some mistakes along the way. After being in and out of facilities for addiction, he finally hit a wall pretty hard. Due to his stealing, lying, and heroin use I would not give him any money or allow him to stay in my home.
Since then he has been in another facility and working(so he says). The problem I am having is that he does not really want to talk to me, and he does not really want to see me. I have been trying, and trying to get with him.
It is heartbreaking, and stressful. I love my son to death, I feel like he is blaming me for this problem of his. He was not allowed to stay with me because I have three step children and a wife in the home. That was extremely hard for me and my wife to enforce.
I often wonder if I made the right choices. I feel like I have been a lousy father. I am feeling extremely guilty and sick about it. Can you give me some input or advice?
I have been really trying to reach out to him, and see him. He is really avoiding me. I have not seen him in months. I don't know what to do or what to say. All I know is that I feel terrible all the time. And of course I really miss my son.
What is a parent to do in this situation? He wont even give me an address where he's staying. Oh, and by the way, it's a person's home who is supposedly helping drug addicts and helping them to be structured. It's not a rehab facility per say.
I am lost, and sick about it all. Please give me some insight . Thanks for your time, I appreciate it.