Two grown sons both addicts?

by Sandra
(Sammamish, WA)

I have TWO Grown Sons that are addicts. Drug of choice. Heroin. I have been to DR's for anxiety and depression. I refuse to take antidepressants. The Dr suggested Al-anon. I tried to help both w/ clinics, AA meetings, you name we did it.

Now my one son is in jail; and I pray a thank-you for i feel on the streets he would die. He also is now on Meth.

I'm am so lost. I pray everyday and I study w/ Joyce Meyers. By doing so I have strength. But I do need contact w/ others who have struggles the same as mine. NEED HELP! Requesting meetings in my area, my zip code 98074.

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We each make our own choices.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Sandra,

What a difficult circumstance you find yourself in. Sadly, drug addiction is a disease of the brain, and the propensity for it does tend to run in families. It sounds like you've done everything you can but your sons are still choosing to use drugs and not responding to the help that you've been trying to give them.

My recommendation is that you let go and let God. Your sons are and always have been in God's hands and you need to trust God and know that He loves your sons even more than you do. You can continue to pray for them but try not to allow their poor choices to ruin your life.

I think you should definitely find some additional support and I highly recommend joining a Celebrate Recovery (CR) Group. There is a church near you that looks like it has a wonderful CR group. Overlake Christian Church has a CR meeting every Tuesday night beginning at 6:00 pm and I think it would be a good place for you to connect with like minded people.

CR is a Christian based program that is based on the 12 steps but also focuses on helping us through very difficult family situations. I will pray for you and hope that you can find peace at CR during this terrible time of turmoil.

In His name,


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