by Out of Ideas
(Rancho Santa Margarita, CA USA)
I have a 17 yr old son who has been smoking pot since 13yrs old. This came to light at the end of last summer. We had caught him with cigarettes and suspected pot, but when things came to a head so to speak, he came clean (we think) about his past use.
He claims to have been using pot at least weekly since sophomore year of h.s. and he will graduate (hopefully) in 4 weeks. In the last 3 weeks his grades have dropped dramatically, he has 3 D’s that used to be B’s. Today, instead of going to school he was caught by my husband smoking pot in the backyard with one of his “friends”.
Back at the end of the summer we found small baggies of skunk weed in his room and kicked him out for the night. We have a sober home and two daughters 15 and 14 who are honor students and not involved in anything like this. We have strict rules about drugs and drug use.
So, upon finding the baggies, we self referred to a police and school sponsored program for teens using drugs (PRIDE). What came out of the required evaluations by Psychologists and Psychiatrists, among the other requirements, was that he is ADHD and he started taking Vivance. He has been getting the best grades of his academic life (all A’s and B’s) until a few weeks ago.
We have known he’s been smoking cigarettes daily, although he tries to hide it. I also found a make-shift pipe for pot hidden in a sock he left in my car about two months ago.
I revoked all driving privileges for this and he was not allowed out for the next few weeks.
After today, my husband wants him out. He’s only 17 though and legally we can’t kick him out.
We also don’t have money to send him to a rehab.
I am looking for advice for the next level of circumstances and any recommendations for where I can get him help on a sliding scale.
Any information would be gratefully received.