(South Africa, Pretoria)
My boyfriend left me for he would rather not get help with his Cocaine addiction. He recons he doesn’t have a problem.
For the last 4 years his been using this every weekend. He did this with both his previous girls.. they just didn’t know what the problem was.. he doesn’t want to commit. With commitment comes change.
He does work very hard during the week and he also trains extremely hard. He is a personal trainer. He will get friends over un-intentionally to them but after a few drinks he would order cocaine. The dealer even delivers at the door. He will even go so far as to lie about who wanted to order it.
I know him so well that he just can not go a weekend without it. I can count on my two hand how many weekend he didn’t take in the last year and a half. But no he does not take it every day… but yes he does this every weekend.
He broke it of via his sister.. he needed some space to sort himself out, and for I wanted him to get help. We had no sex life anymore, no emotional connection deeper that the surface, he didn’t want to go to church anymore, he will pretend everything is fine and he is very happy.
I also told his sister and she believes that nothing is wrong with him, they will go out and he will do this without her even knowing it.. thinking he is not. He left me and we had everything from a awesome house, financial stability, dogs you name it we had it… now his got nothing left after I moved out… even got himself a lesbian to move in with him to pay the rent.
He is emotionally cold and it is as if he is a stranger to me. How do I get anybody to help him.
He is so good in pretending that he will just act his way out of this. I do love him so much and know how he can be but he is just putting this before everything.
He will walk away just not to change.. I know he loves me and it is as if he will just give up love for drugs and the good life.. I really want to help him for I do know he is better than to fall into this.
It seems as if I’m the only one that cares enough to see how he is just going down.. he doesn’t have proper social skills, no intelligent conversation other that the fun side off things.. we had friends that didn’t even wanted to come over to visit for he would twist them to get drugs.. we lost a lot a friends.. and now he is even loosing me…