Daughter addicted to crack
Our daughter who is 30 is on a destructive path with crack addiction. She has been in rehab and that didn’t work.
She has an excellent job and has received her Masters degree a few years ago.
We don’t understand why she is risking all of this.
We know she needs treatment and in talking with her therapist she needs dual treatment(Mental health and drug addiction).
She has agreed to enter herself into only an outpatient treatment. We know she needs more than this. She needs long term care. At least 90 days of intense inpatient treatment.
Would you recommend an intervention to accomplish this?
My wife and I were planning on meeting with her therapist with our daughter present. We are hopeful that our efforts combined with the therapist will accomplish this.
She is fearful of losing her wonderful job. We are more worried that she will lose her life.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
This is a wonderful site and bless you for your diligence and understanding.
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Daughter addicted to crack
Hi- I can definitely relate to your situation. My son has been using alcohol and drugs since he was 13 years old and he is now 27 and in jail. Over the years, I tried EVERYTHING I could to help him and spent thousands of dollars. The only problem was, which I NOW finally realize, that he really did not want to quit. Every time after getting out of rehab. or jail he’d go right back to using. In 2010, after getting out of jail, he finally really tried and was clean for 7 months. Then, unfortunately, he relapsed and ended back in jail. He should be out before too long and he is saying he’s had it and wants to really get into the Alcoholics Anonymous program and to get help. I hope he does that. I go to Al Anon meetings (for friends and families of alcoholics and drug addicts). They help me immensely. I’ve learned that our children have to “walk their own walk”. We can help them if they are truly trying to get help but otherwise we are basically just making it easier for them to keep on using (this is called enabling). A while back I was concentrating on him so much that I didn’t take care of myself and I went downhill badly. I’m doing much better now. In Al Anon I learned that I must take care of myself, do things I enjoy and get support. I go to a counselor, talk to my minister and see a physician’s assistant. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have heard that if you use crack that you get addicted the first time you use it. That scares me. However, there are many people who are clean and have made it. A great place for your daughter to go would be to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting (they talk about drug use, too) or to a Narcotics Anonymous meetings. You can find meetings on the internet. (Al Anon meetings, too.) Also, someone I know has a son who got into trouble with alcohol and also had a really good job. He was able to take a leave of absence from his job so that he could get help. Perhaps that is something your daughter could do. I wish you the best. I hope I’ve helped you in some way. I’ll pray for you.-Lynette
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Treatment Plan Needed
The crack addiction is particularly nasty because the cravings are intense. A friend of mine still gets them long after his treatment. With the dual diagnosis the in-patient route is probably the best bet, even if it means her losing her job. That’s going to happen anyway if the addiction is allowed to progress. Good call on meeting with the counselor, but you have to be ready to make a stand and not allow the drugs and her addiction to ruin your home and family. There has to be consequences, otherwise there’s just a cycle of treatment, relapse, treatment, etc. If rehab didn’t work it’s because it wasn’t allowed to work. Time to get serious. |