I've been married to a heroin user for exactly 17 yrs, he was on heroin then methadone for 16.5yrs then got clean six months ago. All through this I stood by him and believed he would get better and we could finally live our lives.
He finally got clean and his personality started to change, he's become more assertive and his self esteem began to come back and then the bomb shell of him asking for us to separate.
He says he still loves me, I'm his best friend and he doesn't know if this is permanent or a trial separation but he needs to get to know himself. I'm heartbroken, all that effort I've put into the marriage has been for nothing. He still comes round my house and acts like nothing has changed.
My question really is:-
Is there a transitional stage of over confidence /bad decision making after coming off drugs? Does this sound like someone who will eventually 'calm' down and see sense or is this the real him? I don't know if I should wait or get on with my life.
"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." - Matthew 7:7-8