Drug Addiction Intervention:
Is Alcoholics Anonymous just for people who believe in God?
AA is not a religion!
All 12 steps of AA are spiritual, but AA is not a religion, nor does it teach religion.
The program accepts us where we are in our spiritual development and encourages our development. We support and encourage each other in our spiritual growth.
Religion is the way we express our spirituality
There are many questions that the soul/spirit seeks answers for. It is the purpose of religion to share the wisdom of the ages and assist an individual to understand God, oneself, the world, what God expects of us, how we are to relate to this society, etc.
Questions like: How can I pray?
How can I deal with the terrible evil in the world?
What is God like?
Who is Jesus Christ?
What is truth?
In rebelling against authority, many people practice “Do it yourself religion.” This is very popular, but it is not much help when you’re searching for valid answers and truth. The danger is that I make God in my own image and twist my god to support my prejudices.
I need a religious teacher. Many times I am asked by individuals to give suggestions of where to go. I encourage you to phone for an appointment with the leader of the group you are interested in. In your face-to-face encounter share your story briefly, including the material you have on the 12 steps. Their response will be your clue. Do they have some sensitivity to your dilemma, or do they casually pass it off? Go with your intuition.
People in AA meetings will meet you where you are at and not pass judgment. You should find them to be open and accommodating.
For more about Drug Addiction Intervention Questions go to Treatment
Question: My brother has been doing drugs for 15yrs.(since 9th grade), he has been in & out of jail, rehab etc.
He is currently living with my parents. (cause the always let him come home)
I am 28yrs old and live with my military husband in a different state than them. So I don't see them often.
I have chosen not to let my 10 yr. old son spend anytime alone with them this summer & have not visited them. I just don't want to be around the drama that comes with visiting.
There is arguments over money and I have to hide my valuables and deal with the the roller-coaster of emotions.
My mother makes me feel awful because of my choice. Like I don't love her.
I am Christian and she says I shouldn't judge. She makes me feel like the bad guy.
Am I the bad guy?
Should I just deal with him to see my family?
Or should I stand my ground and say as long as you enable him by giving him, food , shelter etc... then I am not coming around.
Do I have to make her choose?
Do you know of any scripture that could help me back up what I am doing is what God would want me to?
Answer: You have set boundaries and have taken steps to act in the best interest of your brother.
It must have been a difficult decision for you to not visit, or allow your brother to be around his uncle and grandparents, but why put him in the middle of their problem?
I support your choice.
Your mother does not understand what the Christian scripture says about judgment. Yes, it says do not judge, but if you look carefully and try to take the meaning of the passage from its original Greek, it actually says do not condemn.
You need to make moral and ethical judgments, especially in raising a child. Your brother has made his problem your parent's problem, and they all want it to be your problem too.
Stand your ground and be responsible.
Your brother needs treatment and he needs to be in a recovery group. If your brother chooses his disease over his family, then he is choosing not to see his nephew.
Your parent's aren't helping. They are part of the problem.
Groups like Al-Anon can help them see this situation for what it is.
As long as mom and dad cave in and give your brother what he wants, there is no motivation for him to get help. If they were to join you and sincerely act in his best interest, they too would say no and set some conditions on his being a part of the family.
I know it's painful and I know you're the "bad guy," but you are also the only one seeing this thing clearly. You can point your family in the right direction by being truthful with them, especially your parents.
They don't want to lose their son, but at the same time they are losing their daughter and grandson, so there are choices that have to be made.
Addiction is a family disease and they need to receive treatment too. The judgment is your brother's disease is a major family issue, but you are not condemning him or your parents.
No good dead goes unpunished, so do your best, get some resources together and don't be surprised if they all resist your efforts.
Loving your family doesn't mean being stupid and blind.