by: Ned Wicker

This is not going to be what you want to hear. You are both addicts, which means the relationship, at its core, is toxic. He was going to help you stay off meth, but he cannot resist its temptation and goes right back to using.

The truth is you cannot live a recovery lifestyle while living with a user. You will tell me that you love him and care about him. You don’t want to leave him. Together you are going nowhere.

You need to turn around. You know you can’t use meth, because you know what it is going to do to you. If you want to throw away your life and your future, go right ahead and keep doing what you are doing.

Other people have told you that. Take responsibility for yourself and decide what you want for your life. If being with a drug addicted boyfriend is your idea of a good life, then do it.

But if you want to be clean, if you want to be healthy and have a chance to live a productive life, you need to get as far away from him as possible. I am sure the treatment center counselors told you that already.

Recovery is a whole new lifestyle, free from drugs. It is your commitment to living a clean life, free to pursue your dreams and ambitions. You have to make a choice. You can’t just use a little and then stay clean for a while.

It doesn’t work that way. In addition to ruining your life, you’re breaking the law. If you’re making meth and selling it, or helping your boyfriend do that, you also a felon. What do you want?

Those addicts who have the courage for self-examination and the determination to follow through on a 12 Step program will tell you that you have to make that choice for yourself. Think of it as an investment. It’s time to chose. Either break free, or stay where you are and live and die with the consequences.

by: Bill and Sandy Fifield

We have been married and sober for almost two decades, so we feel that we should be able to help here.

Have a talk with your significant other and clearly tell him that you will not be a party to drug use any longer.

If he refuses to listen and continues to be a user, you face a decision – which is more important, your health and your life or your relationship with him? Remember that codependency, which we suffered from, can be a catalyst for addiction. Dig deep in yourself to come to terms with your characteristics and if that is one of them, work to rectify it. The Twelve Steps really helped us.

We wrote about our journey in our new book “Dig Deep in One Place” and talk about it at our blog http://digdeepinoneplace.authorsxpress.com. Feel free to visit for more of our thoughts.

by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for all your guy’s help!