Husband is ruining family for pain killers!

My husband had neck surgery in Nov 2013 and he still takes a ton of pain meds and he has gotten to be verbally mean to me. He won't do anything but sit on the couch and fall asleep when he's home with the kids, he will forget to feed them.

Now he is saying he wants a divorce cause he's tired of me complaining about this....Our family was great before, we have four cute little girls and I'm a stay at home mom cause I have health issues need a heart and lung transplant but its getting to much! He steals bill money and gets more pain killers from doctors and now in five days our power is being shut off cause he spent all the money for it...

I'm so stressed out but I love him so much and I want our family to go back to how it was before all this... I miss it!

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Don't give up on your husband, try to get him the help he needs.
by: Debbie Wicker

Your husband is likely addicted to pain pills. I know I telling you something you already know but I wanted to start there so that you can begin to process the difficulty that your husband is facing.

He has a disease that attacks his brain and changes him into a different person. Left untreated addiction is often a fatal disease, so he is in a life and death struggle.

I recommend that you begin attending Al-anon meetings three times a week to learn everything you can about addiction. Start working the 12 steps as you attend the meetings. Working the steps is a key part of helping you to understand what your husband is experiencing.

Try to find a sponsor in Al-anon who has helped their husband to end an opiate addiction. Work with the sponsor to develop an action plan to help your husband, which may include doing an intervention to get him into treatment.

I would also call each of his doctors and make them aware of your concerns about your husband's addiction and try to enlist their support to help your husband.

This is a difficult battle but if you get the support of the right resources you will be able to help your husband understand that he must end his use of pain pills. Arguing with him about is not likely to change anything. That's why you need to go to Al-anon to learn the right ways to work with your husband's addiction.

Good Luck!

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