Everything you have mentioned in your story is absolutely right. I have been married for 2 and half years my husband has been a heroin addict since a year or maybe more, but I knew it last year.
My situation is different because he went to rehab for 3 days. He told me while I was at work before he checked into rehab 2 hours. His mum and his uncle and himself didn't tell me which type of drugs he was talking. They told me Tramadol but as I was the last one to know about the rehab. I had no time to process everything.
Then after he checked out of rehab no one told me until the next day. His mum called me and told me he went out yesterday of rehab and take money from her to get HEROIN. Then I felt as I was in an action movie, like, is it real?
Then I called him and he was crying. I told him calm down and go home till I finished my work and come home. Then the biggest drama had started, he stopped heroin by replacing it with Tramadol and keep on like that for a month I guess.
Then I found out he took money from his mum but she didn't tell me. Then I started to notice that after I'd go to work, he immediately would go out to buy a heroin. Then I confronted him and he was shouting and screaming at me. Then I told him it isn't a big deal just tell me then we can see together what we can do, I took him to a doctor and the doctor told him you have to be the one who wants to quit heroin not coz of anyone else.
The next day he went to buy a heroin as if nothing was said with the doctor. Then I told him we can go to rehab just for withdrawal symptoms and stay a few days to be clean and come back home. He told no coz he had a very bad experience at rehab every time he was taking money and tell me I will use the same way and take Tramadol to quit heroin, but he can't.
All this drama has been in my life for more than a year then I told him you have to leave the home I really did my best and his mum and his family are blaming me coz I was knowing that he was taking and didn't force him, they don't wanna believe me when I told them no one can force him to stop but himself. They made a fun of me. Then his mum doesn't wanna take him and I called her and told her I can't take it anymore. Guess what she said and did ... She told me okay send him to me but there is nothing between you and him anymore. She told me that I left him in the hardest time. After all I did even though she said that he was still in my home and didn't leave but he called her to ask for money then she told him come at night to take it.
I was worried when she told him that but he didn't listen to me. He went to her and found people were waiting for him in the street to take him to rehab be forcing him. Then his aunt called me to tell me he is at a rehab and prepare his clothes and they didn't wanna tell me which rehab or even give my a phone number to check on him as am if I'm a dog not his wife. All that coz I said I can't take it anymore for your info my health was really bad and my weight is 42 K. I couldn't send him to rehab by this way coz he is a man and 33 years old. His and his family are keeping telling me he was okay when he married you, why he became a heroin addict. I swear of God it has nothing to do with me I even don't smoke.
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