Things don't seem to be getting better.

by Julie


I shared my story a few months ago. I thought things would get better since my husband stopped doing crystal meth for a few months so I was thinking YES this horrible nightmare is over. He did end up losing his job during that time.

Now I am back dealing with this horrible nightmare. Disappearing in the middle of the night 3 times a week. coming home just in time to get ready for work. Took off early Monday morning and has not been home since. Phone calls being ignored, text messages being ignored. Not caring about his appearance or caring about our kids. The job he has only been at for 3 months, just got fired.

I am at my wits end with all of this. I don't know what to do. I know he needs help. He texts me that he needs me and loves me and not to give up on him....I just don't know what to do at this point.

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Your husband is no longer in control of his brain, the meth is controlling him.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Julie,

So very sorry to hear that things seem to back where they started, but that is fairly typical of drug addiction. Drug addiction attacks the brain and almost always takes YEARS to recover from.

Your husband is no longer in control of himself, meth is in control of his brain and it will not relinquish control until he starts going to meetings, working the 12 steps and begins to form a path toward sobriety.

If your husband isn't going to meetings DAILY and VISIBLY working the 12 steps, and working with a sponsor, then he is likely still using meth. Just saying he's quitting and pretending that his addiction has ended is a smoke screen and almost certainly a lie.

If your husband is serious about quitting he needs to go to a doctor to get support as he detoxes from meth and you both need to attend meetings daily for 90 days and work the 12 steps.

You should also attend Al-anon meeting yourself and work the steps even if he is unwilling to go. Al-anon teaches us how to love the addict but hate his addiction. We learn how to avoid supporting the addiction in any way and how to make the right choice for the entire family.

Again, I'm so very sorry that things are as bad as ever but you need to take positive steps now to help to end this terrible situation.

Good Luck,


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