Where to begin?

by Susan

My 21 year old daughter was arrested last year for marijuana possession; yesterday I found crushed up powdery substance and a straw in her purse. When confronted, she said "it's not what you think," it's not a big deal," don't overreact! " she told me it was crushed pain pills. She walked out of the house during the confrontation. I called her later to discuss, and she ultimately blew up and hung up on me.

What do I do? What is the right answer here! I'm so angry with her and so disappointed. She works full time and goes to college full time. She is going down a path to ruin herself and I truly don't know what to do! Help!

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Pain pills are opiates and as dangerous as heroin.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Susan,

For some reason there is a common misconception that pain pills aren't that bad for you, and your daughter is likely under that misconception. There is another misconception that sorting them is not as bad as shooting heroin with a needle. This also false.

An opiate is an opiate and regardless of how you take it, (pill, snorting, or injection) you will be opiate addicted if you take pain pills too often.

My advice to you is to stay calm but to take action. Your daughter may not be an opiate addict yet, but snorting opiates usually leads to opiate addiction.

Please start attending Al-anon meetings today and learn as much as you can about opiate addiction. Start working the 12 steps at Al-anon and work with a sponsor to create a plan of action to help your daughter.

The action plan may include an intervention so that you let your daughter know that her use of opiates will have terrible consequences for her, but that you love her and will do anything useful to help her to stop.

Good luck,


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