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2.)) THE HIDDEN PROBLEMS WHEN SEPARATED FROM // DIVORCING AN ALCOHOLIC

3.)) WHAT KEEPS US SO EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO ALCOHOLICS??!!

4.)) SEX & TRUST ISSUES WHEN INVOLVED WITH AN ALCOHOLIC

5.)) YOUR CHILD------ IS IT ALCOHOLISM?! ------ & EXACTLY WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT, IF IT IS

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THE CHAPTER TITLES IN THE ''GETTING THEM SOBER'' BOOK ---

No more taking the blame for someone else's drinking!

Be gentle with yourself

Don't worry about whether he's really an alcoholic

Don't pour out the booze

Learn to relax

Don't be afraid of losing him because you're changing

Stop arguing with him (it works!)

Do one thing every day just for yourself

Use tough love

Don't ride with him when he's drunk

Confront him!

Walk away from abuse

Accept yourself

Don't believe "Drunk Is Fun!"

Tell your families? Only if you want to!

Mean what you say and say what you mean

Deal with his arrogance!

Don't change your address!

Hide the car keys?

You have the right to get sick too!

Learn about blackouts

Try to remember it's a disease

Let the crises happen

No more lying to his boss!

Start to get help---- Even though he's the alcoholic

Stay with him or leave him "Just for today"

Break out of your isolation

Stop asking permission!

Act as if you love you

Put him in the back of your mind

Don't feel guilty when you're mad!

Forget his bad mouth

Don't say you're changing-----just do it

Stop telling him how to get sober (don't talk to brick walls, either)

Don't get scared when he threatens to drink

Wipe out saying, "you've been drinking again!"

Don't expect him to be sober

Stop checking the bars

Don't beg him to stay

Don't be scared that he will leave if he gets well

Getting Help

Sex and alcoholism

A Quick Test--- Are you an alcoholic?

AND--- HERE ARE THE CHAPTER TITLES IN THE 5 BOOKLETS---

1.)) THE 350 SECONDARY DISEASES FROM ALCOHOLISM

2.)) THE HIDDEN PROBLEMS WHEN SEPARATED FROM // DIVORCING AN ALCOHOLIC

Remember the facts!

It's YOUR decision whether or not to separate---- it's not your counselor's decision

Courage to change the things we can

"I was able to decide to leave, even though he was sober and I was physically ill"

What are examples of crazymaking that counselors should inherently know in order for us to trust their advice-giving?

"How counseling helped me decide"

"But he looks so good since we're separated. Maybe he's not an alcoholic?"

"But he's drinking less since we're separated. Can he be getting better?"

"I can't stop being angry with him!"

"When I see my alcoholic husband and he's nice to me, I get upset!"

"I can't forgive him"

"My denial, my compassion, and my guilt pulled me down into it with him, again"

"I've dropped the divorce proceedings six times, now"

"I feel guilty because I think I didn't do enough to make him want to be sober"

"I left a sober alcoholic"

"If I give up obsession, do I have to give up hope?"

"How can I help him after we're separated?"

What are the real problems about dating again?

Answering your legal questions about alcoholism, divorce, children, and court-ordered evaluations

Intervention

3.)) WHAT KEEPS US SO EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO ALCOHOLICS??!!

Don't try to make sense out of their nonsense

Knowing that it's hard to lose an alcoholic, helps us to calm down and keep us on the recovery path

The irregular behavior of the alcoholic keeps us attached

The alcoholic does not exist separately from the alcoholism

Excited misery keeps us attached to the alcoholic

Our need to caretake keeps us attached to the alcoholic

Facing our illusions ends their power to hurt us

Quick ways to detach

4.)) SEX & TRUST ISSUES WHEN INVOLVED WITH AN ALCOHOLIC

Sex and "games" and recovery

Adult children of alcoholics--- guilt, shame, abuse, and isolation

Adult daughters of alcoholics and the mistress-compulsion

Replacing the excitement of sickness

AIDS: Families of alcoholics --- hidden-high-risk group?

Notes to family counselors and their clients

5.)) YOUR CHILD-- IS IT ALCOHOLISM?! -- & EXACTLY WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT, IF IT IS

Is it "just a phase"

Parents are not guilty---the genetic facts about alcoholism

Why most therapies haven't been able to help

Suicide, therapy, and other teen issues: young A.A. members anonymously tell their stories

Intervention

Tough love is too tough for most of us with our children---- how professionals can help do the intervention for you

If your child is also mentally-ill

Caught in the middle-----when adult children of alcoholics are also parents of alcoholic children

Alcoholic 'games'----when your alcoholic ex-spouse adds to your troubles

Surrounded by alcoholism---- if your spouse AND children are alcoholic

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