I am the father of a 28 year old son and he is a heroin addict. I have tried everything from offering him rehab, which he turned down the first time, and then on the 2nd time he went in and walked out 30 minutes later because he thought he could beat it himself.
He has now been arrested with Heroin, Cocaine & Hydrocodone. I am definitely co-dependent and was in denial and believed him at first when he said that he could quit on his own. He got arrested during my attempt at tough love.
This is his first drug arrest, but I am now worried that he will not get a chance at rehab since he had 3 different drugs on him. It was user amounts, but you never know how the legal system works. He is a smart man, that can figure out and fix anything, but he was diagnosed with ADD and is very compulsive, and has been on Ritalin or Adderal since he was a kid.
I love him so much and hate what these drugs have done to him.
We have not bailed him out due to 2 things, the bail is very high, and we are afraid he will use again if he gets out. I want to see and hug my son, and believe in him again, but the drug takes him from me.
I am not doing well at all. Can’t sleep or eat, and don’t know where to go to get help. Drugs have ruined our families and country, and there isn’t any affordable programs available. It’s great if you can get on Dr. Phil and get your addict in rehab at La Hosienda, but what about all the other families that deal with the pain and suffering of dealing with an addict.
I know he is 28 years old, but loving your child doesn’t have an age limit.
My question is: Is it a lost cause for all the families that don’t have the income to go to the rehab centers to save their adult children?