Should I ask opiate addict husband to leave?

by Theresa
(Decatur, Al)

I've been married for 20 tears. I have seen my husband go from destructive behavior to destructive behavior. Cocaine, drug dealing, obsessive gambling, porn, now opiates.

My husband has been battling opiate addiction for 8 years. He's never went to rehab. He crushes and snorts his pills.

I myself have attended Celebrate Recovery for 3 years. I did this to help myself overcome anger and codependency.

I caught him crushing pills again. I'm being advised both directions. No separation and separating. I'm just tired of being afraid of what is going to happen next.

My kids aren't thriving, they're lashing out and depressed. I can't keep living this way!

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I would also recommend Al-anon and working the 12 steps.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear Theresa,

It sounds like your husband has not only addiction problems but also other mental health issues. Somehow you're going to have to define strict boundaries with him and stick to them so that you can get him into addiction and dual diagnosis treatment.

I'm very familiar with Celebrate Recovery and think it's a wonderful program for you. I would also recommend that you attend Al-anon, work the 12 steps and find a sponsor. I also highly encourage Al-ateen attendance for your children, so that they can also get some support in this tragic situation.

Once you're working the steps, begin working with your sponsor to develop a plan to get your husband into treatment. If he refuses to go, consider working with an interventionist from the addiction treatment center of your choice. The professional interventionist will likely get him into treatment and you can move forward from there.

Addiction is a disease of the brain that is often fatal if left untreated. He's likely in the latter stages of addiction and your actions may be his last hope.

Good Luck,

Debbie Wicker

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