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How to find out if my partner is still taking heroin and crack?
How would i know if my partner is still using heroin and crack?
Tell Tale Signs
by: Ned Wicker
Heroin and crack cocaine users have their own rituals and it is not that difficult to determine if they are using or not. Heroin users inject the drug and so will have paraphernalia around, as well as track marks on their arms and legs. Watch the behavior.
Is anything wrong, or out of place, or different? Heroin users might only use a couple of times a day, whereas crack users are always seeking the next hit.
Addiction takes over a person's life, so the signs will be there. Just watch. See our section on these drugs and look for the signs of addiction.
My dad is an addict and I'm leaving for the military?
I'm nineteen years old and for as long as I've been on this earth my
father's been addicted to alcohol and crack... I understand it's a
disease, and he himself is the only one who can fix it.
I plan on leaving for the marine corps by the end of '11 and I fear returning home without a father. Any tips or anything to help my anxiety would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
by: Ned Wicker
You have cause for concern, but there is really little you can do to force your father into treatment. I would call Al-Anon and have a chat with their members, who know all too well what it is like to watch a loved one battle the disease.
Your father does have to decide for himself that he needs help, and you can encourage him to seek treatment. You have to live your life.
I know that might sound selfish, but his problem can't be allowed to ruin your life. God bless you for your willingness to serve our country in the armed forces. I would hope that your father respects that.
There is only so much you can do to help. As it is now, there are no consequences for him. He has you there. When you leave for boot camp, maybe an AA member can help him, or another family member, but he's going to have to want help.
Thank you... It'll have to be something I deal with day by day, as my deployment draws closer.
Crack's long-term effects?
(New Orleans, LA)
My girlfriend is a former addict of crack cocaine. Her use span was
between 3-4 years. According to her she has completely stopped using,
but sometimes I wonder if that's the total truth.
Her brain just doesn't seem to work normal. She finds fault in me for everything, doesn't take responsibility for any of her own actions and turns everything around on me. No matter what I'm trying to discuss with her she takes offense, starts yelling and cursing me and being abusive, then turns on me, and accuses me for everything that she is showing to be.
There is no middle of the road, no peace to be made and no compromise. She will tear me down or anybody who may find a fault in her. She will not accept criticism in any form, constructive or corrective. She has a very shallow life, which only consist of sitting on the sofa all day, on the ipad, iphone and watching tv.
She doesn't cook, doesn't maintain the house, has no job, but has a lot of money from a divorce settlement, which she uses as her power tool.
But God forbid I say anything about getting up and doing something productive. She'll use any excuse in the book to reason why she is the way she is and then start accusing me of not liking her, or hating everything about her. It's a daily fight with her.
She's educated in social work and even when I try to encourage her to get up and do some good for others with her experience and background, she finds fault in me for that. Then says I have the problem that I'm the abusive one, that I need help, that I am a narcissist, etc. I can't get through at all. She takes offense to everything.
She has never been to any kind of treatment program, just quit (I think) on her own and claims that her cocaine use didn't affect her in any way. But getting along with her is trying to make sense of the devil.
What can I do?
by: Ned Wicker
Lesson one: You can't fix her. If your story is objective and true, you probably have no future with this woman, who sounds like a person in denial and her cocaine use might have caused irreparable damage.
You need to have her get an assessment from a qualified treatment center. You also may want to ask them about doing an intervention to try to get her into treatment. If this doesn't work you may have less options.
She has probably never had a medical evaluation and doesn't want one. She doesn't have the problem, she thinks you do, so there's really nothing you can do about her behavior other than to ask her to be civil. I-Pad and TV all day and abuse if anyone says anything?
Living off her divorce settlement? She doesn't need you, she doesn't need anybody. She has created her little world and there's no room for you. Your best option may be to get out and not fight it. You can still be her friend and encourage her to take care of herself, but this sounds like a train wreck to me.
Also consider contacting your local Al-anon chapter, they have seen this situation many, many times and can help you decide what to do.
She needs to decide that she has a problem and she needs to face her own fears and issues.
Marriage Down the tubes
I have finally come to the realization that a sane person can not save a person on crack. The person has to choose to want the help in recovery. I was married to a man for 7 years and spent endless amounts of money in rehab settings for him with the first day of discharge being a day of crack use.
The addiction did not come to light until after the marriage and I wished that I had seen the signs early on.
Having separated from him June of last year, he wanted to still have a relationship with me but not live with me. I saw right straight through that smoke screen. It was a way of having his own world and doing what he wanted to do when he wanted to do it without any repercussions.
He recently disclosed to me the risky behavior he is engaging. Having sex with a complete stranger who is also a crackhead and he just learned of her name and is really risky in my book. This is very nasty and down right disgusting.
If the handwriting isn't on the wall now, I am really blind. Because of my love for him, I tried to stand by him even through his faults. I know now that there is no room in his life for me or anything civil. Crack has won.
This man gets disability and also gets a payroll check under the table being a gifted church musician. Payday rolls around and straight to the crack man he goes.
As in poker, I had to know when to hold em, fold em and walk away. I choose now to walk away.