My husband of 18 years is addicted to pain pills. We have had multiple issues with addiction of crank, crack, pot and now pain pills in the past..and our whole marriage.
We separated last year when his problem came to a whole new light. I had surgery and my husband stole my pain pills 2 days post-op and replaced them with over the counter Tylenol.
I'm not well educated about drugs and symptoms of drug use so I was able to dismiss symptoms of his drug use as normal and think they were isolated issues. We were separated for 8 months when I took him back under the agreement that he was not using drugs, had already gotten help and he would never use them again or I would be gone forever.
So now, I caught him with pain pills again (second time since he moved back in), and he has been taking 15-20 a day (I counted them before I flushed them) he claims that he doesn't take them to get high but only to keep from getting sick. I told him to leave, he then says that's why he didn't tell me he was having problems because I would kick him out.
Am I being to harsh?
He swore to me, on his dead mother's grave, that he was not taking pills, always a crazy turn of fate that put him in the situation I caught him in. I am so tired of the lies, betrayal and most of all the disrespect that he has shown to me.
I have always been drug free and state openly that I have no use for anyone who uses drugs, nor do I want them in my home. Most of all we have two teenage boys that are so sick of all of the back and forth they have seen in their lives.
I have told him that I feel like I don't even know him, all I know is a fake person that he pretends to be. What do I do? I am so angry at him, he ruined my life and the lives of my children.
He feels such a sense of entitlement. I am so sick of living this way. He says it is not that big of a deal and I am over reacting, and if I truly loved him I would support him.
He says he is on a waiting list for treatment. How can I believe him? All he does is lie, one lie after another.
"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened." - Matthew 7:7-8