I feel a huge void!

I am in the process of divorcing my husband of 12 years because of his drinking. I am numb, don't have any emotion...absolutely nothing. Because of the lies and the deception for so long...I feel a big void.

I don't want to be manipulated anymore by him...till we sell the house and go our separate ways permanently I do have to stay in contact with him to some degree. He can be hostile and emotional abuse.

I'm working my own on co-dependency and Al-anon...I just need to know how to create the boundary of not getting pulled into a guilt trip or being manipulated. We don't have children.


When I meet him, the very first thing he told me was he was a recovering alcoholic. Gosh, if I knew then what I know now...I would have run like the wind!

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You're worth it!
by: Ned Wicker

It sounds to me like your husband cares more about drinking than he does about you or your marriage. It's a shame that what could have been a nice life is ripped apart by his disease, but I don't blame you for not wanting to live with him anymore.

There's no room in his life, or in his heart, for you anymore. Al-Anon is a great choice for you, as they truly understand. Focus on what works for you and take care of yourself.

Your eyes should be focused on rebuilding your life and getting on with pursuing joy and happiness. Sure, if you only knew then what you know now, but that's a dead end argument. Keep looking forward.

You are a sadder but wiser girl now, so make sure your choices are in keeping with what is best for you. Just keep telling yourself "I'm worth it" and don't settle for second best, especially the old lies and manipulation.

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