I feel a huge void!

I am in the process of divorcing my husband of 12 years because of his drinking. I am numb, don't have any emotion...absolutely nothing. Because of the lies and the deception for so long...I feel a big void.

I don't want to be manipulated anymore by him...till we sell the house and go our separate ways permanently I do have to stay in contact with him to some degree. He can be hostile and emotional abuse.

I'm working my own on co-dependency and Al-anon...I just need to know how to create the boundary of not getting pulled into a guilt trip or being manipulated. We don't have children.


When I meet him, the very first thing he told me was he was a recovering alcoholic. Gosh, if I knew then what I know now...I would have run like the wind!

Comments for I feel a huge void!

Click here to add your own comments

You're worth it!
by: Ned Wicker

It sounds to me like your husband cares more about drinking than he does about you or your marriage. It's a shame that what could have been a nice life is ripped apart by his disease, but I don't blame you for not wanting to live with him anymore.

There's no room in his life, or in his heart, for you anymore. Al-Anon is a great choice for you, as they truly understand. Focus on what works for you and take care of yourself.

Your eyes should be focused on rebuilding your life and getting on with pursuing joy and happiness. Sure, if you only knew then what you know now, but that's a dead end argument. Keep looking forward.

You are a sadder but wiser girl now, so make sure your choices are in keeping with what is best for you. Just keep telling yourself "I'm worth it" and don't settle for second best, especially the old lies and manipulation.

Click here to add your own comments

Do you have a question or story? It's easy to ask your question or submit your story. How? Simply click here to return to Drug Addiction Solution.

and Finally Remember:

"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened."
- Matthew 7:7-8


Subscribe to our Drug-Addiction-Support.org weekly email:

Recent Articles

  1. Can medication help treat alcoholism?

    Apr 17, 19 09:51 AM

    Many involved in the addiction treatment world have strong views on the use of medication when it comes to treating alcohol dependence. They can basically

    Read More

  2. Its Starts Slow, Then Swallows You Whole.

    Apr 16, 19 10:33 AM

    It began in 9th grade. In early September of grade 9 I would have never believed I would end up where I am. Weed was like crystal meth to me and any other

    Read More

  3. Offering hope, calling for help

    Apr 15, 19 09:41 AM

    My name is Maya. I have been addicted to food, sugar, drugs, TV, love, and shopping just to name a few. I have come full circle. I have had my go at all

    Read More

Follow us on Twitter #AddictionSuport