Just found out fiance was addicted to opiates

by Erin

(Ohio)

My fiance recently revealed to me he has been addicted to opiates for the past 2 years, Percocet in particular. He drained his savings and retirement accounts to pay for it. He told his mom everything too and she is paying off all his debt to help him.

I told my fiance we have to go to counseling because I feel betrayed for being lied to for so long, as well as afraid for the future. He says he quit on his own after several tries, finally taking Suboxone for only 3 weeks and not having a pill since January of this year.

We are getting married in just 4 months, and I still want to marry him, but I know we need to work on some things, because I have no idea how to trust him again. He is willing to talk with someone alone as well, since there must be a reason he has done this.

I have such mixed emotions — I want to be there for him, as I am his soon-to-be wife, but I am also upset being his soon-to-be wife that there was this big secret for so long.

How do we move on from here?

How do I know he’s not still taking the pills?

How will I know in the future if he starts again?

and Finally Remember:

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.”
– Matthew 7:7-8

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