My husband is ripping me apart.

(Americus, Georgia, USA)

My husband is ripping me apart. We've been married for 11 years. I first caught him smoking crack out of a mountain dew can a couple days after being married. It scared me to death. I shook in fear.

But yet here I am, 11 years later, still fighting his addition. He sleeps all the time when he is not working. He's snaps at me, blames me, and is terribly moody. I work out side home as well as keeping home up, paying bills etc... I have had enough.

Want out but scared that if I put him out he will get angry and his drug friends will torment me and that scares me to death. I'm tired, not happy, and exhausted. He won't stop. He always says I've given up. Time passes. All over again. Like a roller coaster... How can I let him go?


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Join Al-anon and get support for yourself.
by: Debbie Wicker

Dear "My husband is ripping me apart",

It sounds like you have really been through awful situations with your husband. No one should live in fear for their safety, but you certainly need to be careful as you decide how to extricate yourself from this situation.

Please consider joining Al-anon by going to meetings in your area. Al-anon teaches us the 12-steps and helps us to learn what we need to do to set appropriate boundaries with our spouse and their addiction.

There are Al-anon meetings in your area, one that I could find in Americus:

Hope For Today AFG


7:00 PM

Friends Of Bill W Clubhouse, 702 Adderton St

There are also other meetings in your area at this website:

Addiction is a disease of the brain that often changes people into monsters who only care about the drug. Your husband needs help but so do you.
Please go to Al-anon, work the steps and create an action plan to end the "roller coaster" that you're both on.

Good luck,


Stop putting pain medication on a tooth that needs to be pull.
by: Thomas

My girl friend was in active addiction when I first met her. After 2 years of living together, I told her,"you can't stay here and continue to use".

I was tired of her stealing my money. Although I was aware of the possibilities of that lifestyle, I was on drugs for 30 years. I care a whole lot about her.

When she got out of detox, we got back together and have been together for 18 years. You can't make anyone stop doing what they want to do. But I'll be damned if I was going to continue to make my life miserable because of some one else's choices.

My suggestion is, if you're tired of the way you're being treated LET HIM GO. The longer you prolong it the harder it gets. If he wants to be a a..h... about it get the police involve.

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